That line, from a poem by Miller Williams, kept jumping out at me as I read it on a friend’s Facebook wall.
COMPASSION by Miller Williams
Have compassion for everyone you meet even if they don’t want it.
What seems conceit, bad manners, or cynicism is always a sign of things no ears have heard, no eyes have seen.
You do not know what wars are going on down there where the spirit meets the bone.
It’s true – despite what we think, we truly have no idea what “wars are going on” inside another. Most people don’t want to know what goes on inside themselves, much less deep within the soul of another.
Me? I long to know what wars go on down there. I do. If you want to chit chat all day about the weather or the Mets, I’m not your (wo)man.
But you want to get down into the muck and the pain of your life? Baby, I am so right there with you. Emotions don’t scare me at all. Not one bit. Not tears, not sadness, not despair. I’ve felt (am feeling, will feel) all those things and more in my own life and know what it takes to open that part up to another.
Holding the energy of compassion while in sessions with my clients allows me to move all judgments and stuff out of the way so I stand right there with you, your hand in mine. It’s not even a conscious thing for me – I just move into it and we’re there, together.
Being an empath helps a lot too because while you may not have the language for what’s going inside you, often I just know it from the inside out. And that’s one of the ways I can help you walk through it.
We all have those wars – don’t think you have to tackle yours alone. I’m right here – holding out my hand. With love, compassion and understanding for all the things that are going on “down there where the spirit meets the bone”.