This week I’m taking a day-by-day look at the work of Edwene Gaines, author of The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity: A Simple Guide to Unlimited Abundance.
Yesterday I covered the topic of tithing – giving 10% of your income to where you receive your spiritual food. (And I pointed out that tithing is not charitable giving (giving to need). Tithing is about opening to the flow of the Universe’s abundance for you.)
Today is all about Spiritual Principle #2: Forgiveness
Unlike tithing, this one is hard for me. It’s not others I have difficulty forgiving.
What’s hard is forgiving myself. Releasing myself from all the guilt I’ve carried is a work in progress for sure.
I’m 52 and I still remember like it was yesterday the mean things I did in high school to a girl we’ll call Tina.
She dated my boyfriend’s friend and when I had a party, I invited the friend but not Tina. She called me at home, crying and asking why she couldn’t come. And I was a stone cold bitch to her and just kept saying “No, we don’t want you to come.” (I am sure I got some pretty karma tossed my way for that.)
Looking back, I have no idea why I did it. She was kind of dorky and I didn’t want dorky people at my party, perhaps? I really don’t know why. But it haunts me to this day.
When you’re dragging something like that around with you, the question has to be “what purpose is it serving in your life right now?”.
Damned if I know. But there I am, dragging it around.
Doing forgiveness work is humbling and it’s often ego-bruising. I really, really don’t want to admit that doing something so cruel was in my nature. And yet, there it is. Whether she’s forgotten about it or not, the point is I haven’t.
Forgiveness starts there. And it happens every single day.
Here’s a snippet of an interview Edwene did with Awaken.com:
Diane: Let’s talk about Forgiveness. Each one of us has areas that we have to continue to work on. Most of all to forgive ourselves.
Edwene: Absolutely. This is a theory I have that I really believe is true. All financial debt is a result of unforgiveness. Financial debt is a socially acceptable way of punishing ourselves. And when we no longer have to punish ourselves for anything, we’ll find a way to have that debt disappear. Also, I think the important thing to realize — and I say this in a humorous way — is that ”the only people that we have to forgive are the people who don’t do things our way.”
It’s a control issue. We put up these artificial standards for everyone else’s behavior, and if they don’t obey them, well, it’s ”off with their heads!”
Before I go to sleep every night, my personal practice is to ask, ”Father Mother God, have I put anyone outside my heart today? Remind me, if I have, and show me how to invite them back in.”
This keeps me fresh and clean. No grudges. No hangover from yesterday. I find that there are really a lot of people who don’t do things my way, so I pretty much have to forgive every day.
Diane: I know. There are a lot of headless people around me, sometimes.
Edwene: (laughing) They did not make me Queen of the Universe, and some days that annoys me.
(I love her snarky sense of humor!)
What’s your thought about debt being about unforgiveness? Does that push any buttons for you?
I am willing to open up to that thought and see if doing the forgiveness work for myself (along with tithing and the other two laws I’ll talk about Thursday and Friday) really makes some big shifts in that area.
What about you?
Are you willing to go down Forgiveness (of yourself) Avenue?