Today’s podcast came from a suggestion from Kelly St. Clair on my Facebook page about how to cope as an empath. It’s sorta easy, once you know how to do it.
Listen in and find out!
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Today’s topic came from my friend Kelly St. Clair who asked me to look at how to cope as an empath. For those who are not familiar with that term, an empath is someone who can feel other people’s emotions as their own: you literally feel what other people feel.
It’s been said that only one in twenty [people are actual empaths – either I hang out with a lot of empaths (which is possible) or that’s no longer true because I know a lot of individuals who have this trait to varying degrees.
Those of us with very high empathic abilities can really feel the emotions of another as if they were our very own. Now, this is a very helpful thing for me when I’m working with a client because I can tune in and get a sense of what’s going on with them before they even tell me in words. And for many who cannot language their feelings well, it’s especially helpful to work with someone who can do that. Counselors and therapists use this skill this all the time.
However, an unskilled empath can find themselves weighed down by everyone’s emotions coming at them all the time. It’s like you’re walking in a store and everyone who comes by flings some sort of emotional yuck at you! You’re dodging anger, sadness, depression, rage and all kinds of things that aren’t yours. So you end up leaving the store covered in everyone else’s yuck adding to your own emotional porridge going on inside you. What a mess, eh?
Fellow empaths, I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s easy to turn that thermostat on your empathy way down unless you need it for some reason. I keep mine on very low except when I’m in a session with someone. Otherwise, I don’t need everyone else’s junk clogging me up!
Here’s how to do it: Imagine a thermostat in front of you – the kind in your house for your heat or air conditioning. Sixty degrees is all the way off. Eighty degrees is all the way on. Keep that picture in your head, okay?
Most times, your thermostat will be at 60 or even 62. That means you are feeling just your own stuff and even if you go to the mall and everyone is flinging crap around, your radar ain’t picking it up.
Growing up as an empath, I thought everyone could do this. I knew when my mom was sad even if she was smiling, I knew there was weird crap brewing in my family long before anyone said anything. Everyone can do that right? Nope. Nope and nope.
If you can, you’re an empath. Non-empaths can understand sadness from an intellectual point of view but they aren’t feeling it like it’s their own. That’s the difference.
It takes time and practice to turn this thermostat down and it also takes a willingness to do so. I liked being able to feel people’s stuff – it let me know what was going on around me. But there came a time when my mom’s hopelessness about her own life situation caused me to walk around feeling hopeless and I had no idea why. I just knew there was this blanket of “nothing I do ever works” around me that wasn’t mine.
Separating out her feelings from mine was hard because we were both used to not having to clearly communicate what was going on. We both just knew. But I couldn’t walk around like that any longer. It wasn’t until I learned that I didn’t have to walk around wide open that I began to consciously turn that part of me down a great deal.
Being an empath is a wonderful gift but it comes with some big lessons. Learning how to turn yours up and down will change your life. It did for one of my clients who now understands how much of everyone’s stuff she was carrying around that she didn’t have to. Her life has changed for the better once she learned that thermostat technique. Yours can too.
I’ll include some resources you can look into (books and such) that I’ve found helpful in understanding my gift of emotional empathy on the post for this podcast. And if you need some help in working with yours, please let me know. You can even use your two sessions in January to put this new found knowledge into practice right away.
That’s all for this podcast- this is Lisa from Practically Intuitive. Have a lovely week! Bye for now.