If you’ve had a strong emotional reaction to something that’s hella out of proportion to whatever it is, you can bet cash money that it’s pinging something inside you that needs to surface.
We are all mirrors for each other – for better or worse. Mostly, it’s all just lessons. (I know! Isn’t every dag thing a lesson???)
Today’s podcast sheds some light on those mirrors and what to do about it when they show you a side you don’t like.
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Am I your mirror? Are you mine?
Hi everyone and welcome to the weekly Practically Intuitive podcast. This is Lisa and this is my podcast about matters intuitive, spiritual and whatever rolls around in my head. If there’s a topic you’d like to know more about, please let me know either by email or leave a comment on this post over at PracticallyIntuitive.com. I’d love to answer your questions!
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So, what are we talking about today?
I am the metaphysical book reviewer for Pathways Magazine and I get sent a lot of books for possible review. It’s almost like a dream come true for me! More books and free ones at that! I recently received a 25th anniversary edition of “Living in the Light” by Shakti Gawain. Have you heard of it? I remember buying it many years ago but don’t recall reading it. (I think my addiction is to buying books and not always reading said books. But I digress.)
Anyway, I paged through it to get a feel for whether it’s something I want to review for the next edition and found a lot of good, relevant information on living intuitively. The more I read it, the more it resonated with me. It’s a really good book with lots of practical exercises and grounded information. I highly recommed it!
What piqued my interest and what I’m talking about today is something from that very book. Learning to view the world as your mirror. Think of everything you like and enjoy about your life right now. You created these things. They are your mirrors.
Other people in your life? Also your mirrors. Gawain says this: “If you are emotionally triggered by something a person does, the two of you are probably mirrors for each other. It may appear that you have opposing viewpoints, but internally you are probably similar. One of you is acting out one side of the internal conflict while the other plays out the other side.”
You just know I have a true-life example of this don’t you?? Ah, you all know me too well.
Once upon a time, I worked in an office next to a really nice woman. Usually, we got along fine. But she had this really deferential thing going on around the men in our office. As if they were always the authority figure or something even when they weren’t her direct supervisor. She’d go into subservient mode around them. I half expected to see her bowing and scraping as they walked by! And this was someone who knew the business inside and out and could dance circles around them knowledge-wise. It drove me nuts to see her do this.
Even before reading Shakti’s book, I knew that this was all about me and not so much about her. I mean, really, what does it matter to me in the scheme of things if she wanted to be so deferential? How was that impacting my life? It wasn’t.
So, it really must be about what it’s stirring up for me. Where in my life was I giving away my power? To whom was I being deferential? Was there room for me to make some changes?
I really did some soul-searching about it and made some small steps toward standing in my own power wherever it was needed. That was a good look in the mirror for me.
Another example of this concept was a co-worker who came and went all day as she pleased without consequence. I managed to work myself up into such a frenzy about it that I had to leave work early one day, I was just that angry.
Again, her doing that had little or no impact on me so why the full-blown meltdown? It was all a reflection of how I was feeling so imprisoned in my job and was angry about having to be there and be the one who cannot come and go at will.
When you experience an emotional reaction that feels really out of balance to what is happening, it’s almost a sure bet that it’s your shadow side poking at you, screaming to be heard. My shadow side reacts loudly to loss of power (in the first case) and being tied down (in the second) and let me know it. Big time.
By looking at these things as a reflection of what was being pinged inside me, I was able to bring them to the surface and get them out. The one where I felt like I was in prison? That was a lot of work unearthing and releasing. It was pretty deep and actually from previous lifetimes. Since it came screaming to the surface, I was ready to acknowledge and release it. So, I did.
Now? She still comes and goes and every now and again it pokes me but not like it did before. And when it does, I try to do something that makes me feel freer and not so tied down. I pay attention to those kinds of mirrors and know that it’s all about what’s going on inside me.
Are there situations in your life where the emotional response is out of balance to what’s really going on? I would invite you to write about it (or talk into a recorder if writing isn’t your thing) so that you can process and release it. If it’s showing up in a big way, it’s time to look at it and work through the ick so you can move forward. What’s that saying “What you resist, persists?” – so true. Until you pay attention and process what’s being shown to you, it will keep coming back like a cosmic 2 x 4 in bigger and bigger ways.
I’ll close this week’s podcast with the exercise from the book “Living in the Light” by Shakti Gawain:
Thanks, as always, for listening. This is Lisa from PracticallyIntuitive.com – have a wonderful “looking in the mirror” filled week! Bye for now!