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I’ll start this post out by saying that I have a very difficult time receiving. I much prefer giving because, well, it’s easier and more fun for me. Picking out just the right card and gift is an art and it’s one I’m quite good at doing, thankyouverymuch.

give and take
Still, if you’re always giving and not often receiving (gifts, compliments, help, etc.) then the balance is way off. You aren’t being re-fueled in a way that supports you. Before you know it, you’re depleted and resentful.

This was me, several weeks ago. I was all grumbly and sad because it felt like I was giving a lot and no one was giving back.I asked a few trusted friends if I put off the energy of not needing anything and I got a pretty unequivocal YES.

It was kind of humbling to realize that I was the one shutting myself off from getting what I most wanted. I was so afraid that I’d come across as a whiny 5-year old, begging someone to pay attention to me, that I managed to go in the opposite direction and act like I needed nothing.Then I ran around feeling hurt because no one paid attention to me.

Geez, Lisa.

Ah! But there’s a silver lining!

Since I’m the one blocking the way, I’m also the one that can move. The shift is mine to make. I’m not sitting around waiting on someone else to change so I can be happy and get what I need. It’s all in my hands.

What about you?

Are you a perpetual giver but a craptastic receiver?

Why might that balance be off?

What payoff are you getting for never allowing anything in?

(There’s always a payoff! Mine was a desperate fear of looking needy so the payoff wasno one could judge me for looking needy if I refused to show what I need. As if I had any control over what others thought about me anyway!)

How can you allow the Universe to give you more?

What else is possible if you open up and say “yes, please”?