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Let’s talk about Guides, baby

So, I think it’s time to have “the talk”.  No, not the one about the birds and bees.  I’m pretty sure you know about that.

I want to talk about Spirit Guides and how to work with them in an appropriate way.  

 What Guides are not:

  • all knowing, all seeing over everyone and everything
  • here to tell you what to do
  • able to wave a magic wand and make things happen

What Guides are:

  • here to guide and teach when you are willing to learn
  • able to communicate with you through several different mediums
  • able to share perspective and wisdom on how to create what you want
  • trusted advisors who have an overview of what your soul came here to experience

So, why am I laying this out for you?

Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of people who hang on to what their Guides say, waiting with bated breath for their next transmission.  And it seems to me that once they get the words, they are sated.  But they don’t take action. They just take words.  

Words are nice and fluffy. I like words a lot. But from a spiritual perspective, if you take no action based on those words, it’s just information.  Almost like you picked up a book in the library, perused it and put it back on the shelf.  Information.

Wisdom, on the other hand, is information acted upon which creates a transformation.  And that’s where your free will comes into play.

You decide to take action on what you get. You can choose to put the book back on the shelf and walk to the next aisle.  Or, you can take the book off the shelf.  Then you read it and most importantly,  integrate what comes through those words into your life.

And POOF! Something changes.  *YOU* change.

See, here’s the thing:  I get why you’d want to know what’s coming.  And why you believe that your Guide not only knows what’s coming but what you should do about it.  You know what, though? That’s totally (and I mean totally) giving away your power of free will.

Yes, your Guides know a lot of stuff.  Especially about your reasons for incarnating and your soul purpose.  But it’s not their place to create how you express that.  It’s completely up to you.  

There are no shortcuts to the lessons you’ve chosen to learn in this lifetime. I should know – I’ve been looking for that damn shortcut for years!  And your Guides are here to do just that: GUIDE YOU.  Not tell you what’s ahead (because you create that so they don’t actually know), not wave a magic wand to make things better and more comfortable for you and certainly not what you should do (there is no “should” in the spiritual world).  

You control what happens (or doesn’t) in your life.  Step up and take the reins and watch the transformation happen before your very eyes!


I’ve done that successfully in my life and the information I get from my higher self and Guides in Spirit is so well integrated that I act on it easily.  My life got so much better when I became aligned with my path and purpose.

Yours can be, too!  Contact  me and let’s talk about ways to make that happen for you.  It’s not as hard as you think (and lots of fun, actually).

Come to my window

As I was doing an email reading the other night, I thought it might be kind of fun for me to let you peek behind the curtain and see how it all comes together.  Readings done via email are a bit different from those done in person and it depends on what you’re seeking as to which kind of reading might be more appropriate.

If you’re the kind of person who likes to read, digest, come back, read some more and then take action then an email reading is probably just the right fit.

On the other hand, if you are someone who can take in a lot of information at one fell swoop and move on it, a call is a better choice.  One is not better than the other – just different.  I have found it so helpful to record the readings so that I can listen back to them later on (even years later) to get a big picture overview of where I was at that particular time.  And because I think a recording is so valuable, I am in the process of getting that set up so I can offer these along with the phone readings in the near future.

But, getting back to an email reading – let me share some of the process I go through as I’m doing them.  Each intuitive has their very own way of doing this so I’m speaking only for myself here.

I have two affirmations that I use to “set” the energy before I do a reading which create the energetic space for me to do the work.  It’s not a necessity but more of a nice energetic ritual I use.  

Hands poised above the keyboard, I invite the Guides and Teachers of the person for whom I’m reading to join me.  (I can often feel them gathering ahead of time, actually.)  Then, I move my rational mind out of the way and start typing.  

(By the way, moving my “Lisa brain” out of the way is the hardest part of this work.  Fears, doubts, worries …. those all belong to Lisa because when I’m pulling down guidance none of that exists.)

Each reading starts with the words “Dear One” as a salutation from the Guides.  They speak in a unified voice, identifying themselves as “We” and can sometimes sound stilted and overly formal.  I’m not sure why that is but I see it often through other channels and recognize the energetic vibration as the same.  
In these readings, the Guides will address questions the reader has given me and will often elaborate on other topics as they deem necessary. I have absolutely no idea what they will say before I begin nor do I have a sense of where they will end up. Basically, I’m just the transcriber, not the author.  

As I’m doing the readings, I will sometimes make a note of what kinds of feelings, thoughts, energies I’m getting as I’m doing the reading and always clearly note that they are from ME and not the Guides.

Here’s an example:

(Guides: We suggest you ask us for a sign that will be your SIGNAL to take a step forward.  It can be anything from a flower, to a song, to a particular kind of car. Tell us what you wish to see as that sign and then look for it.  

Ah! But here’s the hard part – what will you do when you see it? Will you take it as a sign or will you just say “That’s a coincidence.” and remain in your cocoon?  You must make a deal with us as you ask for that sign – the deal is that when you see it, you must take an action that will help you bring your idea out of your head.  Let’s say that you want to tell a friend about your idea but are worried that s/he will think you’re not being serious. Take a risk and share it with them.  It’s important that you anchor your faith in us and trust with action in the physical. Otherwise, it’s all just lovely fluff, isn’t it?

 (Lisa’s note again: I am getting the feeling that bringing out this idea of yours is pretty pivotal. It feels to me as if a very strong and positive path hinges on it, even.)

 (Your Guides laughed)  Yes, that is correct, it IS pretty big.  We know you know that but don’t want to acknowledge it.  That’s okay.  Just sit with the idea a bit and you will become more comfortable with it.

another example:

(Guides:) And now, to your most pressing question (or the one that has the most energy behind it):  a romantic partner.   First, we want to acknowledge the inner work you’ve done to remove blocks, change patterns of behavior and to generally look hard at *your*self and what shifts are needed.  

 (Lisa says: they bow as one. Like a group of five monks saying “Namaste” to you in unison.  It feels very sacred and that they are truly honoring your big work.)

and one more:

Lisa’s final note:  “Even-keeled” is the key word for your Guides.  Balanced and peaceful but willing to nudge you harder when needed.  The energy shifted when I was writing about the clairvoyant skills – harder edged – like they were literally pushing me to push you.  Not as floaty as earlier.  Interesting shifts.

I wish I could invite you inside my head as I am bringing through the information because it’s pretty cool.  It just flows from a place that is not me.  That’s the only way I can describe it.  Often, it comes too fast for my “thinking mind” to process.  For one reading in particular, the energy was so blazingly quick that I couldn’t type fast enough to get it all written as it was coming through.   I had to ask them to slow it down just a tad so I could get it all. (They did.)

In the third example above you can see where I comment on any energy shifts or changes that occurred and what I felt as I was doing the reading, hoping this adds to the picture that’s presented.  The readings can take an hour or more, depending on what comes through.  I just type until I feel the energy naturally draw to a close.  (I sometimes hear the words “Peace out” which means they are done transmitting.)

Each reading is unique to the person I’m reading for – I don’t use a template or anything else like that.  My agreement is that I share what I get – exactly as I get it.  Early on, I tried to change a word in a reading claiming that the person won’t know what that word meant.  Yeah. The Guides were having none of my editing.  “This reading is NOT for you so it doesn’t have to make sense to you.” they said.  OH.  Alrighty then.  🙂   And so, nowadays, what I gets is what I types. To.  the.  letter.

A quick but important note:  your Guides will never tell you what to do.  Ever.  

To do so negates your free will. It’s the same reason they don’t just pop down and announce themselves in big Hollywood movie fashion. The nudges and suggestions are just that and you are free to follow them or not.  What I find is that Guides offer options to follow the path of your soul because they see the larger picture.  The choice is always yours to take action. (or not!)

If you’re interested in what your Guides have to say or you need a bit of clarity on a particular issue, schedule a reading now.     I can help put their words into your action right away.

(Dontcha know there’s a LOLcat picture for everything?)

Does your soul have stamina?

One of the big things I talk about on Practically Intuitive and really, the cornerstone on which my practice is built is that guidance without action is just a bunch of nice, fluffy words. It’s almost like a story about someone else where you are required to do nothing but listen. Acting on guidance is much, much harder for many of us.

A soul with stamina, a term I learned from my wonderfully “stern” teacher, Caroline Myss, basically means the ability to do the work given through guidance releasing the need to know why you are asked to do it. Acting on the knowledge that it’s given to you for reasons that are for your highest good.

Myss says:

“The challenge is not whether we are worthy enough to receive guidance, but whether we are courageous enough to respond to it.”

There are many times where acting from guidance can look pretty foolish to others. I’m reminded of the story of St. Bernadette of Lourdes and the trials she was put through as she acted from her guidance from the Blessed Mother.

The message of the Lady was: “Penance! Penance! Penance! Pray to God for sinners. Kiss the ground as an act of penance for sinners!” The following day the lady told her to drink from the spring, pointing out a spot, which to Bernadette was only a muddy area.

Bernadette did as she was told and the crowd was appalled to see her digging up the mud and placing it at her mouth. Her response to the questioning crowd was ‘It is for sinners’. The small spring begins to flow from the spot and a local girl, a friend of Bernadette’s, plunges her dislocated arm into the spring. It is miraculously healed, the first of many to take place in those early days and so many since.

My courageous soul moment

For the last two years of her life, my mom lived in a nursing home an hour or so from my house and I would go hang out with her pretty often. This particular Saturday it was warm and I was able to wheel her outside to sit in the sun. As we sat out there, she thought of something she needed *right then* from the drugstore. She urged me to go get it, even volunteering to stay outside in her wheelchair until I got back. So I went. (She was pretty insistent and who am I to argue with my mother?)

As I came to a stop on the corner near the store, I saw a woman standing there with a sign – you know how people stand in the median and ask for money? Her whole demeanor shouted the words “defeated” and “beaten down” to me. I decided that I would get a big bottle of water from the store to give to her along with some dollars I had in my wallet.

I left the store, put my items in the car and it was like I suddenly was on a mission. I walked over and without a word, I just held my arms open to her. She collapsed into them and cried so hard that her whole body shook. We exchanged no words because there really were none needed. I just held her as she cried.

It didn’t matter to me that I didn’t know her, she didn’t know me and that lots of cars were going by watching us. All I knew was that she needed what I had to give in that moment. She shared a bit of her story with me and told me she had no idea how she was going to go on. I held her hands, looked into her eyes and said “You will be okay.” And I felt very sure of that. She took the water and the money I offered and said thank you. We hugged once more and I ran back to my car.

On the way back to my mom’s, my Guides told me I was not to speak of this to anyone. And so I didn’t. (Even when my mom said “What took you so long?”) It moved me in a very profound way but I was to guard that experience. About three years later, they gave me the go-ahead to share it but very carefully and I’ve done my best to not discuss it a lot because the moment feels very sacred to me, as if I were allowed to be part of something much greater than myself.

I bring it up here because it was one of the most striking examples of how to act on guidance I’ve had in my life. If I had time to mull it over, I might not have been so bold. I might have let my fear of looking silly get in the way as I often do.

When I look back at the pieces that had to be set in motion, (my mom asking for something out of the ordinary that I had to do “right then”, for example), I know that I was sent there on purpose. It really is that clear to me.

A soul with stamina responds to the work put in front of them. Each time you act on that guidance, you build the strength of your soul even a little bit.

What experiences in your own life have helped you build that stamina? Care to share one?

(If you want to know more about what actions you can take in order to build that stamina, your Guides and I are most happy to work with you. Let’s talk!)

Case History: Lessons in Empowerment

[pullquote]Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach him how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.
Lao Tzu [/pullquote]

That famous quote by Lao Tzu is really at the heart of how Guides in Spirit work. As I mentioned in an earlier post , your Guides are there to empower you, not to tell you what to do.

Recently, I did a reading with Maddie* and as we ended the hour, it became clear to me all the ways her Guides encouraged her to find her own power.

Maddie showed up for our session with her questions all written out.  She had many of them and was truly ready for some direction. For example, she had some varmints snarfing down her vegetable garden and wanted to know how she could protect the food from them.

In response, her Guides showed me a small metal fence around the area and when I told her the picture, she replied that she didn’t think a fence would work. In my mind’s eye, I saw them pointing to her and when I questioned what they were saying, I got that she was to create an energetic fence around the plants.

The Guides shared with me (and what I shared in turn with her) was that she has an amazing gift for working with energy.  Since she is attuned to Reiki, the Guides indicated that she had what was necessary, energetically speaking, to create a barrier that the animals would respect.

I thought that was kind of cool, actually. So did she.  It was one way the Guides were showing her that the ability to take care of the issue was within her.

“Everything you need is there inside you”

This theme of self-empowerment is something I see so often during the readings I do for others.  And even in the information my Guides send me.

Just today I was out in the pool, floating around, having a chat with my Guides.   (I seem to connect best with them near water – and yes, they often visit me in the bathroom – don’t ask. heh)

I was talking about a situation with another client and voiced my concerns that perhaps the issue was too big for me to handle. Their reply: “If it comes in front of you, know that you have what you need to work with it.  And you always have us as backup.”

That made me smile because I really *do* have the skills to assist my client and it was nice to have that reminder. We often forget that we know these things and look outside ourselves for something – someone – to fix it for us or at least tell us what to do.

It’s harder and definitely more challenging to “learn how to fish” for ourselves.  Yet, that is what working with your Guides in Spirit can teach you. (Well, maybe not fishing, exactly but who knows? Maybe they are expert in just such a thing!)

In the example with Maddie, above, they reminded her that she has the ability to take care of her vegetables using her energetic skills. They didn’t tell her exactly *how* to do that. It’s hers to figure out. But they were able to show her a path where she didn’t see one before.

And that is the work of your Higher Self and your Guides in Spirit – to show you paths and options you might not see. It’s up to YOU to walk down that path.

*not her real name

PI Rewind: Self authority *is* important

For those who might have just joined me here on Practically Intuitive, welcome! I’m glad you came by.

(Lots of new friends from SITS who are also doing the “31 Days to build a better blog” Challenge. (waves to them!)

Today’s assignment was to highlight a previous post that you really liked. Looking back over the past few months, I decided to go with “Self Authority *is* Important” from May 23rd.

In my experience working with the Guides, they seek to empower you rather than have you rely on them as the sole source of that intuitive information.

As an example, I was talking with a client who felt called to move to another state but wasn’t sure where to go. She asked her Guides to tell her where to move.

Their response? They suggested she lay out a map in front of her and run her hands over it slowly. See what states she felt intuitively drawn to by that method. Then narrow it down and do it again until she gets to a few choices that are feasible for her to visit.

That’s much more empowering and a better fit for her because she would be the one making the decision rather than the Guides saying “Go to Colorado”. It comes from *inside* her rather than a source outside herself.

Learning to trust what you get intuitively is the ultimate resource … not your Guides, not another intuitive, but yourself. Once you’ve got that part down, co-creating with the Guides can take you to another level entirely.

So, here’s an excerpt of that original post (but go read the whole thing, k?)

… how do you learn to rely on yourself when it comes to matters of importance in your life? How much reliance on intuitive readings is *too* much? Anything not done with a sense of balance and an eye for intention can cause problems.

For example, I use a pendulum in situations where I am too close to it to move my emotions to the side easily. Do I take it out every five seconds and check whether I should be doing this or that? No. But it’s like a new skill – when you first learn it, you want to practice it every day! After a while, you learn how to integrate that skill so that it’s in balance with the rest of your life.

The Curious Case of the Blue Balloon

My sign from the Angels

(As promised – just a little story from me to you.)

While it’s true that I am clairaudient (i.e.: I can hear guides, teachers and departed loved ones speaking), there are times even *I* need outward signs that they’re with me and we are working on stuff together.

Such has been the case of late. I’ve had a few things rolling around in my head that I’ve pondered to death. (I am a world class ruminator, y’all.) And sometimes, I just need something to keep the junk from overtaking the truth.

Yesterday morning. I asked my angels for a sign – a blue balloon – to let me know I was on the right track and all was well. Usually, I ask and then just forget about it. They are good at reminding me about those signs.

As I was driving home from work, I realized I hadn’t seen my blue balloon and decided to have a pout about it. Out loud, even.  I said “If I don’t see one by tomorrow, I will know things suck.” (I’m a cheery sort, am I not?)

I heard the words “Can you just trust us?” and I replied (out loud because I was alone in car) “I’m afraid to. Afraid that it won’t be what I want.” and again I heard the word “Trust”.

Grudgingly, I said “okay okay okay”.

Just then, something caught my eye on the right side of the road where there’s a jogging path.  I don’t know what it was that caught my eye but I looked up quickly and there it was my blue balloon.

Someone had tied up a bunch of balloons to a post and they were in various stages of deflation but there, clear as day, was my balloon.

I’m a dork.

I cried.

Because they’ve never, ever failed me when I’ve asked for a sign of this kind.

So, the watchword for the day is TRUST.

And blue balloons.

And cake. (We’re having a birthday at the office.)

But mostly, TRUST.

And so it is.

(P.S.: Signs come in all kinds of ways – I hear songs on the radio, books have fallen open for me – you actually do get to ask for what kind of sign you want. Try it and see!)

What kind of sign will you ask for?