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It’s a dead man’s party, who could ask for more?

I’m all dressed up with nowhere to go
Walking with a dead man over my shoulder

Waiting for an invitation to arrive
Walking with a dead man over my shoulder

It’s a dead man’s party
Who could ask for more?
Everybody’s coming
Leave your body at the door

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Recognize those lyrics? They’re from a song called “Dead Man’s Party” by Oingo Boingo. It’s a fun, giddy 80s song (despite the subject matter!) and I’ve danced around the house to it lots of times.

Listening to it brought to mind one of my friends who recently lost a family member. She asked me if this person was okay. I mean, yes, they’re dead and all but are they okay??

Here’s the answer now and for all time:

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Are you breathing death into someone’s aura?

breathing fire

“Breathing death into someone’s aura” – that’s some imagery for you, right there.

It’s a turn of phrase used by David Neagle in his course “Art of Success II” as he’s talking about why one needs to stop gossiping.

Now, we all know that gossiping is a crap thing to do and we all still do it. (I admit it. I do it, too.) Yet, as a highly conscious person (or someone striving to be highly conscious), it’s one of those habits that needs to stop.

Why?

You really ARE “breathing death into someone’s aura” – that is a perfect explanation of what gossiping is on an energetic level.

From my perspective, gossip energy feels like “I need to bring you down so I feel better about myself”. It’s low vibration because it comes from a place of feeling “not good enough” (for what or whom is a question only you can answer). It’s just a way to make yourself feel better about what’s going on inside you – a way to manage the feelings you don’t quite want to deal with. So you shoot them out the side in the form of gossip and you feel momentarily better.

And now, Lisa’s true life story #874

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Is this manifester-thingy on?

I’m posting this article written by one of my teachers, David Neagle.  In it, he mentions the Law of Polarity, one of the Laws by which the Universe operates in an orderly fashion.  I talk about this Law sometimes in my work and liked his explanation of it (below).

If you’re not familiar with Neagle, go check him out and while you’re there, download the free 4-part audio “The Art of Success” – it’s his seminal work and has big fat chunks of wisdom packed inside 4 hours.

 Manifest Your Prosperous Idea

If you’ve been following this goal-setting series, you’ve identified what needs to leave and come into your environment, and you’ve made an unwavering commitment to your goal.

You are now ready for it to manifest.

Get Emotionally Involved

To start moving your idea from the nonphysical to the physical, you have to become emotionally involved in it.

Imagine how your project will feel when it comes to fruition. Think about it all the time. Fan your desire for it into a white-hot flame.

Why is that important?

Emotions are like the engines behind our thoughts, which by themselves are neutral.

When you imbue your idea or any thought with emotion, you send it zinging through time and space, and the Universe starts bringing you what you need to manifest it.

If you stay emotionally connected to your project, it will manifest quickly.

If you fall into doubt and recant on being willing and able, you return to ground zero. You have to start again.

I know…if you’ve never consciously manifested something before, it is difficult to keep the faith.

Just remember that the moment you had the idea it came into existence along with the means to manifest it.

That’s the promise of the Law of Polarity.

Instant Manifestation and the Law of Polarity

The Law of Polarity states that everything in the universe has an opposite. There would be no inside to a room without an outside. Every up has a down and every down has an up.

Not only does everything have an opposite, but it is equal and opposite. If it’s three feet from the floor to the top of the table, it’s three feet from the top of the table down to the floor.

The opposite of a question is its answer, so when you have an idea, the way to manifest that idea is also present. They’re like two different sides of the same coin.

People think that wealth and poverty are two different things, but they’re not. They’re just opposite sides.

This is true for any ill effect you’re experiencing, whether it is debt or lack of prospects, sales or money.

If you’re experiencing the opposite of the thing that you want, that thing is also around you. You just don’t perceive it.

This is why instant manifestation is real. Once you can perceive it, it’s already there.

Bang! It comes right into your field of vision. You have it. It’s yours.

Yes, you do have to shift your perception in order to see ~ and experience ~ the other side of the coin.

I’ll show you how to do that next time.


© Copyright 2012 – David Neagle’s Life Is Now Inc., All Rights Reserved Worldwide.

David Neagle, The Million Dollar Income Acceleration Mentor and author of The Millions Within, teaches entrepreneurs and commission-based sales professionals how to quantum leap their current incomes past the 7-figure income level, often in less than 12 months. As a world-class speaker, sales trainer, and success-mindset mentor to some of the globe’s top CEOs, David also privately mentors big decision-makers in their pursuit of quantum success and peace of mind.

Podcast #50: You’re not the boss of me! (and a goodie giveaway!)

In today’s podcast (number 50!), I’m talking about self-authority.

If you’re looking outside yourself to someone else or some thing else to tell you what’s true for you, I’ll share a couple ideas that help bring you back to trusting your inner knower.

You can listen to this week’s podcast right here! Podcast #50: You’re not the boss of me! –> Podcast #50: You’re not the boss of me!

Also, a reminder that if you are looking to book a single session with me, now’s the time.  They’ll be going away very soon to make way for a fuller program to share guidance and help you put it into practice.

More information on that new program coming soon!

You know you love contests!

Sarah Seidelmann from Follow Your Feel Good has graciously offered one of my readers her wonderful iPhone/iPad app (a $4.99 value) called “What the Walrus Knows”.

You can read all about it at her site but in a nutshell, it’s a way for you to connect with your totem animals in a new way.

She gave me a preview copy and it’s great fun and very enlightening!

There’s a drumming meditation as well as lots of information to help you make sense of the animals that surround and support your journey.

If you can’t wait to see if you’re the winner, you can purchase it now at the iTunes store!

All you have to do to enter is leave a comment below this post!

It can be about the app and why you think it will help or about how you view self-authority!  Just leave a comment by midnight (eastern) Thursday October 4th and a winner will be chosen at random.

WINNER ANNOUNCED: Christine Stephens!  Thanks everyone for playing!

Podcast Transcript

from Practically Intuitive Podcasts

 

Hi everyone and welcome back to the Practically Intuitive Podcast.  This is Lisa from Practically Intuitive.com – always nice to have you listening in!

As I mentioned in the last podcast, changes are afoot at Practically Intuitive.  Within the next month or so, I’ll be discontinuing one-time readings and moving to a bigger way to support you.  I’ll still be calling in your Guides and Teachers, walking through the Akashic Records to look at your soul work and removing those cords of attachment but it will be as pieces of a larger process.  If you are interested in a single session, this month is the time to do that.

More information on my new program coming soon.  Stay tuned.

I also have a goodie I want to share with a lucky reader! A colleague of mine, Sarah Seidelmann, created a really cool app for your phone or ipad called “what the walrus knows” – it’s a way to connect more deeply with your animal totems as they show up in your life.  You can read more about it at followyourfeelgood.com.

Sarah’s graciously  given me a special secret code that unlocks “what the walrus knows” app  for one of you guys out there! All you have to do to enter the contest is leave a comment on the post for this podcast either about the topic or why you think this app would be a good fit for you.  I’ll choose the winner at random at the end of the week.

One of the things most important to me is self-authority.  The more I engaged with guides and teachers, the more I see how necessary it is for us all to take responsibility for what shows up in our life, knowing that on some level we called it to us.  We might have done it unconsciously but it comes just the same.  From a place of ownership, you can effect real and lasing change.

Not before.

So, when I talk about self-authority, I’m speaking about the choices you make in your life about what to believe in, what actions to take based on those beliefs and the knowledge that you can significantly affect what shows up for you by claiming ownership of your life.

How do you get there, though, if you’ve been putting your faith in some thing, some one outside yourself for a good part of your life?

If you’ve been seeking validation for your choices from your parents, teachers, spouse – how do you begin to work toward that self-authority?

First, you have to see the value in doing so. 

There’s lots of value in owning your own ideas, desires and thoughts.  Most importantly,  you increase the chances of getting them when you own them big time.  Wayne Gretzky once said “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” And that applies here as well.  You will never get what you wish if you don’t first put it out there – to your spouse, to the Universe.  You have to claim it and bring it into consciousness. It also reinforces the idea that you get to decide what you want in your life.  Stuff doesn’t just happen to us.  Really.  It doesn’t. Whether you bring it into your life consciously or from a deeply buried place you don’t even know exists, you’re actively deciding what shows up for you each and every day.  Make what shows up a reflection of what you truly want.

Second, understand that with great power comes great responsibility. 

Once you know you have the power to receive what you want, you need to be much more discerning about what you put out there.

For example, let’s say you share with your spouse or partner that you’ve always wanted to be a teacher.  You’re not even sure what you want to teach but you know that desire has always been in you.  They ask you how you plan to make that a reality.  You shrug.  (Seriously, you just claimed it! Why do you have to know what to do with it?? J)  A week later your partner asks again ‘”thought anymore about what you want to do with that teaching thing?”  “no,” you respond and quit asking me about it, you think.

That’s the thing – when you claim something and put it out to the Universe, forces start coming together to help you get it.

That naggy spouse? Part of those forces.  They remind you that you claimed it and are helping move you to the next place.  Silently thank them for helping keep you on track even if the way they do it feels crappy.

Begin to move toward what you claimed – in the case of a teacher, that may be researching online certification classes or looking for a volunteer position you can do to get some experience.

The skies are not immediately going to part and bestow upon you the perfect teaching position where you’ll make a buttload of money and love every second.  That’d be cool but it ain’t gonna happen.  The lesson is in the journey to get there.

If you claim it, you are telling the Universe that it’s important to you.

Do that with consciousness and intention, though, because your Guides start getting things moving and shaking so that you can realize this desire. Be sure it’s something that feels right for you.

Bottom line: self-authority is really about what you want and what shows up in your life.  It’s also about how you discern what is true for you versus what you’re told is true.  As you develop and trust that inner knower, you are able to make clearer decisions and your life will be a much better fit for you.

As you go through your day, give some thought to what is showing up for you and if it’s something you want in your life.  If it’s not, how can you claim your own authority and ask for something different? Even just allowing the idea that you get to choose a different outcome is empowering!  Try it and see!

That’s all for this week.  If you have thoughts or comments about self-authority that you want to share, please come on over the Practically Intuitive.com and leave me a comment! This is Lisa from PI.com, have a lovely fall week! Bye for now.

Jodi Chapman helps us “Come Back To Life” with new E-course!

 

Jodi Chapman  is a dynamo!

She’s an inspirational author, having co-written with her husband Dan Teck the bestselling Soulful Journal series and the upcoming book “Coming Back to Life: How An Unlikely Friend Helped Me Reclaim My True Spirit” .

Jodi’s also the creator of the wonderful E-course “Coming Back to Life” which starts October 1st.  You might have heard me mention it a time or two in my recent newsletters.  Along with many other names you may recognize, I’m one of the contributors to this delightful offering.

She’s poured her heart and soul into this project so here, in her own words, is what it’s all about!

Lisa: Jodi, can you tell the Practically Intuitive readers a bit about yourself?

Jodi:  Sure! I am an inspirational writer. (I still pinch myself when I write that because it’s such a dream come true.) I am definitely evidence that our lives can change drastically once we make our minds up and begin to leap toward our dreams. I write the blog Soul Speak, and I am so grateful for the loving community there.

Lisa What inspired you to create the “Coming Back to Life” E-course?

Jodi: I was given a helping hand when I needed it so desperately, and this course is my way of offering my own hand to anyone else who is stuck and needing to wake up to their own life.

Just two years ago, I was in a very different place. I definitely wasn’t awake. I was feeling lost and numb and completely disconnected from my soul and from all of life. Like so many of us, I was living my life on auto-pilot. I was alive in the sense that my body was functioning – my heart was beating, and I was getting up each day and going to work, but I wasn’t REALLY living. I was just going through the motions – sleepwalking through life – and I wasn’t even aware of it.

And it’s not like this numbing out happened overnight – it happened gradually over a period of many years. Throughout my life, when something or someone hurt me, it felt like a little part of me left. I’ve always been a sensitive soul, and sometimes it was just easier to retreat rather than feel the pain. I also have lived most of my life feeling afraid and stepping back rather than leaping when I was called to take a chance.

Also, I had spent several years in survival mode – struggling to get by financially, and was numb and needed to wake up and start living, I would’ve seen this as frivolous and not a great way to make sure all the bills were paid. So all of these pains and fears and struggles piled up on top of each other – creating a dark cloud over my heart. It was just easier to go to sleep and not think about it or feel any of it.

Two years ago, all of the struggles in my life came to a head – my husband and I had to move under very stressful and surprising circumstances, we were having a hard time staying passionate about our struggling gift business, we were drowning in bills with no light that we could see at the end of the tunnel, and we had just lost two people who meant a lot to us. So we were grieving and trying to put our life back together at the same time. All I wanted to do was crawl into my bed, pull the covers up, and wake up when everything was better again. I didn’t know how I was going to keep going.

That’s when the helping hand came. My loved one who had just died began communicating with me from the other side. He was my childhood sweetheart, and we hadn’t spoken in almost 20 years. I was definitely not open to this sort of thing at all, so it took an entire year of him sending me signs and me asking for more signs and on and on before we finally could get to work.

And once we did, my entire world opened up. He helped me see that being here on Earth is such a beautiful gift – a gift that we have chosen to be a part of. He helped me see that I wasn’t really living. And he helped me wake up and step back into my life again.

Our journey together has been life-changing for me. Everything changed – all because I now saw things through a different lens. I now know that my time here is precious, and I can choose to come back to life. We all can.

That’s why I created this course. I was given this beautiful gift, and I didn’t want to keep it all to myself. I want to be the helping hand for anyone who wanted to start living again and wasn’t sure how to do it.

Lisa: Wow! What a journey! And I love that you totally got the lessons there for you and turned it around and are sharing what you learned with others.  That’s what it’s all about, isn’t it?  Can you tell us a bit about the E-course?

Jodi: The Coming Back to Life E-course begins on 10/1 and lasts for 6 weeks. It’s a helping hand, a set of concrete tools, and a loving support system all wrapped up into one heartfelt course!

This course is for those of us who have ever felt disconnected from life – from our soul. It’s for those of us who have felt our light dimming. It’s for those of us who know that there is more to life than simply getting through the day.

This course is for those of us who are ready to plug back into this magical universe, reconnect with our soul, and open our hearts again. It’s for those of us who are no longer willing to just “get by” and sleepwalk through our days. It’s for those of us who are ready – truly ready – to start living fully.

Lisa: I have been there and done that! It makes all the difference having someone to shine the light for you as you walk the path, holding hands with others for safety and courage.  How’s it all work?

Jodi:  Each Monday for 6 weeks (starting October 1) , you’ll receive an email with that week’s goodies (the workbook, videos, guided meditation, soul art, etc.). You can either set aside a chunk of time each day to spend on the course, or you can take one day to work through all of it. It’s completely up to you!

Every Thursday, you have the option of being part of the live online chat where we can connect about that week’s content. There are optional assignments every week where you can participate with the Facebook group, too!

All of this is completely optional though and can be completely self-paced. Some of us work better in a group, and some of us work better on our own. This course can be as group oriented or as self-paced as you are comfortable with.

If you find that it’s too much for your busy schedule, slow down and stretch it out. The material is yours forever, and you can go through it when the time is right for you.

Here’s what the course includes:

  • Over 150 pages of love – including weekly lessons + soulful activities. This is where you get to show up for yourself. This is where you get to reconnect with your soul and discover who you are deep down at your wisest, most loving core.
  •  Heartfelt Videos. This course contains over 30 soulful videos! Each week includes at least one video from me sharing that week’s message, one from an inspirational soul sharing their story, and one designed to teach, inspire, and offer concrete tools that you can apply to your own life.
  •  Guided Meditations. Each week contains a guided meditation that is specific to that week’s message. They are grounding and calming, and I find them to be so helpful.
  •  Beautiful offerings from over 35 soulful friends who are also on this journey of self-discovery. These friends have been on a similar journey and are brave enough to share their experiences with you. Whether they share their stories and inspirational messages through video, audio, artwork, or writing – they all serve the same purpose: to help lift you up and see that you are not alone. We have all experienced the darkness, and we have all opened up to the light.
  • A private Facebook community. In this community, we can all join to support each other in our journeys, ask questions, and share our experiences. This community will be available to you even after the course ends.
  • Weekly chat sessions. This will be a space where we can go deeper into the material, truly support each other at the soul level, and really create a tribe filled with love and nurturing energy. I will commit to spending at least one hour each week there to talk in real time with you!
  • My guidance/story. Throughout my life, I have found that I like to have things modeled for me – it helps me retain what I’m learning if I can see how someone else implements it in their own life. With that in mind, each week includes my own experiences and what I have learned along the way.
  • Soul Art. I have designed printable posters to go with each week’s message. Perfect for hanging up around your sacred space and filling your soul with love each time you see it!
  • Surprises. Who doesn’t love surprises? I have a few fun things up my sleeve that I’ll be sprinkling throughout the course – gifts of love that I can’t wait to share with you!
  • Bonus gifts. When you register for this course, you’ll received instant access to over $150 in amazing bonus gifts!

When you register, you’ll immediately have access to the private Facebook Group, where we are already getting to know each other! You’ll also be able to download all of the bonus gifts and start going through them right away.

Lisa: Jodi, that is an amazing course! Holy cow!  I really like the idea of it being self-paced if that’s what someone needs. Sometimes life just gets in the way and you fall behind and feel left out. And there are lots of others who need the support and encouragement of others going through it at the same time.  Yes, Virginia, it can be all things to all people! 

Speaking of which, Can you tell us some of the benefits to joining the E-course?

Jodi:  Oh my gosh, there are so many!

First, I would say that the biggest benefit for anyone who enrolls is to know that they have taken the first step toward embracing their life. They have walked toward the light and are sending a clear message to their soul that they are no longer okay with sleepwalking through life. Through awareness comes healing, and recognizing that your life isn’t how you would like it to be is the first step toward creating the life you want to be living.

Second, I would say that knowing you aren’t alone in feeling this way is a huge relief and a benefit that will last a lifetime. Like I said earlier, I went through much of my life completely closed off to outside help, and it was a very lonely way to live. Once I opened up and allowed others in, everything changed. I now feel love constantly pouring in, and I am constantly letting it flow out as well. It’s a much more free and loving way to live, and you’ll definitely experience that within the course.

And that’s just a sampling of the benefits! There’s a lot more to encounter along the way.

Lisa: How can going through this course really bring change into our life?  So many courses promise it but sometimes it doesn’t materialize.  How can we be sure?

Jodi:  Well, this course can’t change your life unless you are willing to change the way you are living your life. You have to be open to it and you have to be willing to put in the work. That may sound harsh, but it’s the truth. I have read tons of self-help books throughout my life and was always disappointed when nothing changed. Well, it was because I simply read the book but didn’t apply any of the teachings to my own life. I read them like I would read a novel – simply for enjoyment rather than to learn and REALLY change and grow.

If you sign up for this course and simply watch the videos and read through the workbook but don’t apply any of the exercises to your own life, I’m sure you will enjoy everything but I would bet that nothing in your life will change. You have to make the choice to take action. You have to be so fed up with your current way of living that you are honestly ready to make a change.

And if you are, then this course really can help you. It’s based on what I went through in my own life, so I know that it works.

Once you decide to wake up and start living fully, you will begin to examine why you stopped living and then you get to figure out how to heal from that, forgive yourself and anyone else that needs to be forgiven, open up to the universe, and begin embracing your life again.

And no, it’s not always as easy as this makes it sound. But once you begin and once you feel that glimmer of hope again – that feeling that you probably haven’t felt in a really long time – you won’t want to turn around.

You’ll want to keep moving toward the light. I guarantee it. This course will start you on a beautiful journey that you will continue for the rest of your life.

Lisa: Oh yeah! I’m totally with you on that – you have got to change some actions down here in the third dimension to see change here in the third dimension.  So, what do you hope people will take with them at the end of the six weeks?

Jodi:  I want them to see that there is another way to live. I want them to really know that we have a choice – we truly don’t have to go through life simply going through the motions and just getting through the day. There is an entire universe out there that we are only just beginning to tap into. Our soul is connected to such a beautiful world – and waking up is the key to experiencing this way of life.

Lisa: Where can my readers find out more about joining in?

Jodi:  They can go to the “Coming Back to Life” page where they’ll  learn all about the course, including each week’s content, a detailed description of all they’ll receive in the course, and a complete list of contributors and bonuses!

Lisa: Awesome! I can’t wait to see it up and running! It sounds fabulous.  Any last thoughts for us?

Jodi: We have all felt disconnected from our soul and the universe throughout our lives. This is completely normal. And when we feel this way, it can be hard to know how to plug back in. When I was feeling numb, I had a friend help guide me back. That’s why I created this course – to be that helping hand for you. To offer concrete tools and a loving community to support you in your journey back home. I would be thrilled if you joined us.

Isn’t it time you woke up and embraced your life again?

Isn’t it time we all did?

This amazing e-course begins on October 1st – I hope you’ll choose to come back to life!

Lisa: Thanks so much, Jodi.  You’ve done some big work and I know it will shine the light for many who truly need it.  I’m so glad to be a part of it!

Podcast #49: Boundaries – gotta love ’em!

 

While they’re not fun to enforce (or we’d do it all the time, no prodding necessary!), they are critical to your soul’s growth and evolution. In today’s podcast, I talk about why that’s so and give you a couple ways to start working on yours right now.


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Don’t forget – the “Coming Back To Life” E-course starts October 1st!

 

If you’re looking for something to help bring you back to your center that you can do in little bits, this is the course – it’s chock full of wonderful information, exercises and extra special gifties all delivered right to your in-box!

Coming Back to Life Ecourse

Podcast Transcript

from Practically Intuitive Podcasts

Hi everyone and welcome to the Practically Intuitive podcast. I’m Lisa and you can find me at Practicallyintuitive.com where I write about intuition, personal development, metaphysical matters and whatever else pops into my head.

Big news! In the coming month or so, I’ll be introducing a new way to guide and support you.   I realize that sharing the wisdom that comes from your Guides is important but even more so is the need for you to implement that guidance so you see real and lasting results in your life.  Making life changes are hard and that’s where we often need the most help.

But we can’t do that in just one sixty-minute call because change, real change, comes from small, progressive steps. So I’m putting together a package that will offer you the chance to dig in and get amazing transformative results.

Among other things, it will include a three-hour kickoff session where we spend some time really working on what’s in your way and crafting a plan to move past it, coaching to bring about the change you desire and – more importantly – sustain that change, and some learning sessions so you can find deeper ways s to work with your Guide team or experience the freedom that comes with cutting a cord of attachment.  There are lots of other cool things that will be included in this package and I’m so excited to debut it!  Look for more information coming soon.

Today I’m going to talk about everyone’s most favorite topic – boundaries.  What? It’s NOT your favorite? Truth be told, it’s not mine either.  Still, being able to know your boundaries and understand why they are a crucial part of taking care of yourself is key to getting what you want and need.

Personal boundaries are the physical, emotional and mental limits we establish to protect ourselves from being manipulated, used, or violated by others. They allow us to separate who we are, and what we think and feel, from the thoughts and feelings of others

Well, that seems easy enough, I suppose and it makes sense.  Unfortunately, many of us grow up with boundaries that have been stepped on, trampled over and just plain ignored by those around us – family, lovers, friends, children.  And somehow, we begin to think that we either don’t deserve to have our own opinions or feelings or that others come before us when we consider what we want.

Take the young girl who has grown up seeing her dad bully her mom whenever her mom asked for what she needed.  This girl gets the message that if you speak up, you’ll catch holy hell for it so she learns to  go along to get along.  She loses her metaphorical voice in the world.  She also learns that it’s okay for someone else to shut her up.  Can you see how this would affect so many areas of her life? She hasn’t been taught that it’s an essential life skill for her to speak up and own what she wants.

I was 24 when I moved out of my mom’s house and I got so much flak from my Italian family over my desire to do that.  In my family, you stayed home until you either went away to college or got married. I was leaving just because I wanted to and that was not acceptable, according to my mom and grandparents.  My therapist at the time made me repeat the mantra “it’s okay for me to do this” over and over and over. Essentially, I had to give myself permission to want this in the face of everyone telling me that it wasn’t okay.  I did it but with an enormous amount of needless guilt for reasons I still don’t understand to this day.

And empaths, those who can directly experience the emotions of other people, face a particularly difficult time with boundaries.  It’s hard to know what feelings belong to them and what belongs to other people.  There’s a huge blurring of borders.

I know (often with amazing clarity) how my words and actions will directly affect another.  And I’ve chosen not to speak up many, many times because I didn’t want to hurt someone.

Instead of allowing them to feel whatever they want and make their own choices, I’ve created this entire play in my head about what’s going to happen when I speak up.

So, not only am I not honoring my own boundaries by remaining silent, I’m not honoring their right to feel and act however they choose in response to my words.

Why is it so hard to ask for what we want? And to be able to say no to what we don’t want?

There are so many reasons, really.  Much of it comes down to understanding that not only do we have the right to set our boundaries; we have the responsibility to do that.  Boundaries are your way of claiming what you value.

If you don’t claim it, you will seek your self-worth in someone else’s opinion.

 Let me say that again because it’s huge: If you do not claim the things you value and want in your life, you are giving that power away to others who will make those choices for you.

Is that what you really, truly want?

Your needs have just as much validity as anyone else’s needs.

Really they do. No matter what you’ve learned along the way, you matter just as much as everyone else.

Believe that.  Because all else springs from that belief.

Now that you know how important it is to claim your desires, here’s a couple ways to start doing that right today:

1)      Speak up even in situations that aren’t a big deal.  If someone asks you what restaurant you’d like to go to and you don’t overly care, pick one anyway.  This is just practice in speaking your preference out loud. When you see that you can own what you want with the small stuff, it helps build your confidence in asking for the bigger things.

2)      Learn to say no nicely.  And be truthful about it.  If you don’t want to go to a family cookout, say “I’m not going to be able to come but thank you so much for the invitation.” Making up excuses just makes you feel bad for not being truthful and disrespects the other person. There are reasonable ways to say no thank you.  Find them and use them in cases where it’s appropriate.

This is such a large topic that affects so many areas of our life that I’ve only been able to touch on it a bit here.  But if you start with these small steps, you will see a difference immediately.  You can’t not see it! And the more you do it, the more confidence you’ll have about speaking up. So when it gets to something big, you’ll be able to say what you want much easier.

Like learning how to work with your intuition, the time to practice it is when there’s nothing riding on the outcome, not when you’re in the weeds and have to make a life-changing decision.  There’s no shame in starting right where you are. Just start.

That’s all for this time. Thanks so much for tuning in and I look forward to talking with you again soon. This is Lisa from Practically Intuitive.com, bye for now!