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Fear is a choice


So, here’s a thing about me: I really like to know what motivates someone’s word or actions. Most of my life is spent wondering “what’s THAT about?” because there’s a reason people say or do things (or don’t say or don’t do things). Always, there’s a payoff. ALWAYS.

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Looking at what that payoff is can be tough. Especially if you’re not doing something that you know is the right next step for you. In those cases, the fear often outweighs the perceived reward. Some of my own fears were about the fear of being judged, of being seen (and judged!) and of saying something that will piss people off (and being shunned and ridiculed).

Just yesterday we had a wee discussion in the Business of Intuition Facebook group about how most of those fears live in our head. And they get bigger over time, especially if we even think about moving past them.

No matter what you’re doing, if you’re swimming in fears and judgment, your outer world will reflect it. You’ll choose the safe, the easy and the familiar because you may not know how to process what comes up for you when you make a different choice.

Being willing to look at those choices and  that payoff to see if it’s aligned with who you are is challenging. If you’re in a marriage of cruelty and chaos and you crave peace, there’s some inner work to get done to understand why you’re choosing that. If your business is floundering, looking at why you’re choosing to stay invisible may be what’s needed.

All of it is a choice, sometimes made consciously, usually not so consciously. And if you can choose fear, you can also choose confidence. Or joy. Or peace. Every single one of us has our fears and our challenges, true. But if we are willing to find out “what that’s about” and walk through it, our choices become a lot bigger. And happier (even if not in the short-run).

What will YOU choose today?

Is someone else doing YOUR spiritual work?

I’m pretty sure that Caroline Myss is doing mine. Also, Andrea Hess. And I’m thinking maybe Wayne Dyer did a lot of mine early on. In fact, I better credit him with starting me on this path in a very real way because much of my foundational work comes from his lectures and teaching.

How nice that all these lovely individuals were doing my work for me, isn’t it? Thanks, guys!

What’s that?

You ask “how did you manage to get such famous people to do your work?”

Well, let me explain then.

I was listening to Andrea Hess’s course “Step Into Power” the other night and she said something that jumped out and conked me on the head.

“You may tell yourself that you don’t know your purpose – but you do. Because you are drawn to the people who are doing a version of a very similar purpose.”

I thought of all the people who have influenced me over the past nine or so years and realized that the reason I was drawn to them is that they are doing a part of my work.

What is my work?

I’m an intuitive. Information for others flows to me in ways that even I don’t yet understand. Yet I know it and I trust it. That’s one of my soul gifts. When I look at those whose work I’ve gravitated toward, it’s people like Dr. Myss, Dr. Dyer and Andrea. They are teachers of metaphysical principles. All three of them are able to take BIG concepts and bring them down into ways others can understand and put to use in their life.

And really, isn’t that part of what practical intuition really is? It’s taking those things that you “just know” and putting those ideas and thoughts to use in your own life. If you look at the work of my three teachers, it’s all very similar. They don’t teach stuff just to store in your head and keep moving along, although I suppose you could. They all teach ways of *integrating* these big concepts in your daily routine so that you and others benefit from it – on both a soul level and a personality level.

It was Dr. Dyer who taught me that “Thoughts are things” and “What you think about expands.” – I *got* that on a very deep level and actively used that knowledge to do things differently in my life.

Maybe I wouldn’t say that pissy thing that was rolling around in my head. If I know that “thoughts are things” (and they are), then what energy am I sending out if I’m running around with a lot of pissiness in my head? Probably not very good energy, I’d say. So, I set about to re-route my thoughts.

(Let me tell you – that is not easy to do! I have to constantly remind myself not to judge other people’s clothing choices. Seriously. I do. When I’m out and I see someone in an outfit that horrifies me, one of my first reactions is to judge that person. Then, my higher self pops out and asks what about that person has touched the place in me that needs to judge? I also learned that from Dr. Dyer – judging someone is all about your need to judge and not at all about that person. As you can imagine, this gets tedious sometimes and it’s oh-so-much easier to just say “Oh my God – look at that outfit! EEK!” than to look inward and see what’s being poked. Still, I keep on trying. It gets easier with time. (Right?? Tell me it does!))

So, yeah. I’m a teacher. I can help you put your own intuitive skills (yep, we all have ’em) into practice pretty easily. The three who walk this path before me have taught me well. They did some of my spiritual work for me. Nice deal, eh? And while I’ve not (yet!) pulled down some big ideas like Dyer, Myss and Hess, I will. See? I just know it.

Who is doing YOUR spiritual work?

Look at the teachers you most feel drawn to. What do they all have in common? You’ll find a link for sure. I didn’t even realize until I started thinking about it what Myss, Dyer and Hess all have in common. I just knew that I somehow just absorbed their work like a sponge. It wasn’t that I had to sit and study it – it just seeped into my soul and I was able to use it as a springboard for my own work.

I’d love to hear who moves you and why so please feel free to share in the comments below.

Here there be dragons!

Actually, no dragons. Just me moving my stuff to a new server.

Bear with me. This was really not a good time to do the “31 Days to a better blog” challenge, was it?  🙂