How NOT to work with your Guide team

Once upon a time in a land far away (better known as 2010) I created something called“Email Coaching with your Guide Team”.

Here’s how it worked: each Sunday, I channeled a message from my client’s Guide Team for them to take action on during the week. They’d correspond with me and let me know what happened as a result of that action.

mail-146645_1280Sounded good to me in theory. In practice, not so much.

What happened was I started getting emails from my clients asking “what do the guides think I should do about this?” or “what do my guides say I need to do now?”

Hmmm.  That wasn’t how I envisioned it.

What happened was that I created a space (unintentionally) that fostered a dependence on whatever edict was handed down from the Guide team.  Shoot. Once I saw that, I ended that program quickly because that is so NOT the way to work with these high vibrational beings.

They do not wish to foster dependence on their words for they are not the ones taking action here in the physical. You are. You must always be the one to make those choices and when you wait with bated breath for their next utterance, you are giving away your self-authority.

If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know I’m big on self-authority. Here’s what I wrote about it back in 2011:

Self-authority (as I understand it) means having the ability to discern what is for your highest good and acting on it.

For example, society’s mores say that you won’t get a good job without a college degree. Your parents think it, your friends think it but what if you don’t? What if you feel like it’s not something you want to pursue and decide to go your own way? To stand up to those who believe otherwise is using your own self-authority.

Self authority means making decisions and accepting the consequences of those decisions without blaming it on another. It means knowing that everything that comes your way, good, bad or neutral, is a result of decisions you’ve made. It means stepping out of the victim shoes and into your own powerful ones.

Spirit Guides are amazing beings of light but they are not there to tell you what to do. Whether that’s in your business, in your love life, in your inner thoughts, it all comes back to you.

Don’t outsource your authority to them – they won’t take it (and will always turn the question back to you) and you are putting yourself in a position of powerlessness. And that position will not serve you in the long run.

Co-Create with your Guides – that’s what they’re there for. Be in charge of your life and ask your trusted advisors (both in spirit and in human form!) for their input and suggestions. But it all comes down to YOU.

I call bullshit!

Bestie Anni and I were talking the other day and she mentioned this quote from renowned author Sonia Choquette about meeting with your Guides:

“Another way to show appreciation is to keep a clean and organized home. If that’s asking too much, at least maintain the area around your altar in this manner. This shows your respect for the guides by giving them a peaceful, clear place to rest.

This right here? Bullshit of the highest order. Seriously.

How do I know?

In addition to being the High Priestess of the Woo, I am also the High Priestess of Clutter. And if the Guides demanded (needed/wanted) respect to be shown in this manner, I am quite sure either I’d be nudged to remove that clutter or else risk losing my ah-mazing skills.

Since neither has happened, I think it’s pretty safe to say Guides do not give one tinker’s damn about a peaceful, clear place to rest.

With all due respect to Sonia Choquette, I am enormously bothered when teachers (famous ones at that) say things like this because it sets conditions on working with Guides in Spirit. And that is never, ever the case.


You don’t have to have a clean house, a pure heart, a big purse to ask your Guides for help. Their support is UNCONDITIONAL. Always.

And this is what I mean when I speak of discernment. Here’s a respected teacher in the world of Woo setting conditions on how your Guides will work best with you.

Nope. Nope and oh yeah, nope.

Don’t accept it. Don’t take it in. Don’t allow it to make you feel less than because you’re a creature of clutter.

Just don’t.

I’m not some fancy author with a butt-load of books to my name (yet!) but I am one of the clearest channels for Spirit Guide wisdom you will ever come across. So believe me when I tell you that your Guides are available to you – 100% – at all times, in all ways, in all conditions.

You need them? They’re there. All you have to do is ask.

(UBC) Day 26: Book Review: Contact your Spirit Guides by Asandra

By Lisa Wechtenhiser

Did you know I am the metaphysical book reviewer for Pathways Magazine? It’s true! And I get sent more books to review in a month than you can possibly imagine. (You bet it’s damn cool!)

Today, I’m sharing one of those reviews from the Spring 2013 edition. Tomorrow, I’ll share the other one on “Afterlife: Uncovering the Secrets of Life After Death” by Barry Eaton.

Contact Your Spirit Guides

CYSG Book CoverContact Your Spirit Guides

It’s a not-very-well-kept-secret that I am a channel for Spirit Guides myself and I’m particularly skilled at seeing the answers to questions show up in all kinds of places. But when I asked for the next step on my journey, the last place I thought I’d find it was on Pinterest.

Filled mostly with pictures of food and clothing and cool quote graphics, Pinterest is an interesting (and rather addictive) place to visit. Who knew that’s where my own team of Spirit Guides would share the answer to my question? This book came across my path on Pinterest and I got that PING! I get when I need to pay *extra* attention. So I did. And boy, am I glad! (Those Guides just rock at stuff like this!)

I’ve read a lot of books on the subject of Spirit Guides and while many of them have accurate information,some can come off to me as floaty, ethereal, kind of “fairies in trees” sort of things. It’s time for something that matches the current elevated state of consciousness.

“Contact Your Spirit Guides” by Asandra is exactly that book.

“Asandra is a conduit for Master Spirit Teachers exclusively with a focus on assisting individuals in the fulfillment of their souls’ highest journey.” In addition to being a beautifully clear channel for over 27 years, she is also a renowned artist with paintings exhibited in many fine hotel chains across the world. Her writing is clear, concise (not at all flowery and ethereal – my personal bugaboo in the spiritual world) and she has a way of bringing high-level concepts down to a personal level. And that’s where the new consciousness is taking us – understanding that the answers are all within us – not “out there” somewhere.

“If you seek guidance and inspiration daily, life becomes more graceful, directed and inspired. Once you become accustomed to the presence of Spirit, it is invaluable to utilize the connection in your daily life. This is not about creating a dependency on the Guides. On the contrary, we are seeking a working relationship with Spirit.

The vision of what you want to create comes from within you. When you reach out to your Spirit Guides for assistance, they can make the process of fulfilling your soul-based desires easier. After all, they see the overview of our path and direct us with that level of clarity.

Ultimately, the relationship between you and Sprit becomes a deeply comforting one. To know that there is loving support in the universe that is aware of your specific needs is profoundly reassuring.”

I don’t think I could sum it up any better than that. Working as partners with your team of Guides in Spirit IS an amazing way to move forward in your soul work here on Earth. This book takes that concept and really helps you put it into place in a way that integrates it into your life. Not the life you want to have (“When I have time, I’ll meditate and go to Yoga class, etc” ) but the life you live right now, right today. Start wherever you are. (And take this book with you!)

Each chapter builds on the one before it, explaining what Spirit Guides are, how a conscious alliance with them makes shifts and changes much easier and finally, offering specific steps to help anyone get in contact with their own team. In addition, Asandra channels her own Guides who give us a perspective on lessons for humanity in general – so needed at this time of planetary energetic chaos.

What I really loved about “Contact Your Spirit Guides” is that it holds a high vibration and yet is really down-to-earth. Trust me when I tell you that is sometimes very hard to do! Regardless of your level of knowledge about working with these wonderful beings, you’ll find something that will open a door for you between these pages. I’ve had many years of being a clear channel for them and I found quite a few AH-HA’s in there.

If you are building a metaphysical library that you can also use as a resource, this book is a must-have. I’m so glad I listened when my Guides dropped it into my (Pinterest-loving) lap!

“Ultimately, the proof of this guidance comes when our life falls into alignment. We feel connected to Source and on purpose. There is a sense of great expansion that cannot be imaginary. The synchronicity of a life fulfilled is the confirmation that authentic guidance is present in our lives.”

And to that I say a rousing YES!

A Primer on Intuitive Readings – how to ask the right questions for the best guidance

By Lisa Wechtenhiser

Last night I did about 30 mini-readings over at the Practically Intuitive Facebook page. Whew! It was fun for me and I hope illuminating for those who got their questions answered.

In light of the free call AJ McClary and I will be doing on Sunday April 28th, I wanted to share a few ways you can get the most out of your intuitive readings (be they free mini-ones like last night’s Facebook fun or a paid one with me or another reader).

Do these things and don’t do these other things


Why aren’t you asking for help? It’s right there!

By Lisa Wechtenhiser

I was talking with one of my wonderful clients today and she asked me this question: “If people know that there’s support and help from their Guides and the Universe, why don’t they take advantage of it?”

Good question!

personal_and_professional_coaching_1_Why wouldn’t someone open up to the love, wisdom and company that they offer?

There are probably many, many reasons but the first one that comes to me is just plain fear.

Fear of:

*Being disappointed – what if I start to rely on them and then something big happens and they’re nowhere to be found?? I’ll feel like a fool for having trusted in something I can’t see AND I won’t have anyone to walk with me when the going gets tough.

*Asking for what I want and then it doesn’t show up.

* Walking a different path than those around me – what will people say if I tell them I can hear (feel, see, talk with) my Guides? Will someone put me in the nuthouse?

Just because we can sit here and say all that sounds silly and none of it happens (or I’d be blogging to you from ye olde nuthouse on the corner!), it still feels very real. It’s hard to trust in what you cannot see and know for sure. That need to know FOR SURE stops a lot of people right in their tracks.

It stops them from asking for help.

It stops them from receiving that help when they have asked.

Your Guides and Teachers can only help you if you ask. Period.

And, as I talked about a few posts ago, they cannot and will not play the part of your master. They are your partners. That means you have to step up and do your part by asking AND then taking action.

Don’t let fear stop you from stepping up and asking for help.

Don’t let the need to know WHY things happen as they do stop you from taking action on the guidance you get. Sometimes, you can only see the ‘why’ in hindsight (sometimes, not at all!) – the trick is just acting in faith. (I call it “Faith-Walking”)

The help is there.

ASK for it to reveal itself to you in whatever way is for your highest good.

And act on what shows up.

Are you looking for a partner or a master?

By Lisa Wechtenhiser

So, it’s 2013, right? Things are different than even just last year.

New energies.

New vibrations.


Are you still hanging out in the old paradigm?

The one that says someone else knows better than you do?

The one that says you are but a lowly sinner who has to be saved?

The one where you can just take orders from someone else “in charge” thereby sidestepping any responsibility?


Are you looking for a master?

Think about it.

What’s stopping you from being the master of your own life?

Let’s talk about that because for you to be able to step into the new, higher-resonating energies, you have to (HAVE TO) understand a few things.

First, the only way to really, truly change things in your life is to take ownership of them. The good, the bad, the meh. All of it is through your own (most likely unconscious) thoughts and actions.

Second, even though it seems like it a lot of the time, no one else knows what is best for you. Only you (your higher self and your soul) know the lessons you chose when you incarnated and what experiences offer you those lessons.

Third, learning to trust that you really DO have that knowledge within you and acting on that knowing is the single biggest thing you can do to change your life.

Really. It is.

Until you really get that you are the master, you cannot have a partnership with your team of Guides and Teachers in Spirit.


Because you are looking for a master and they will not accept that role.

They CANNOT accept that role. It is not their right to do so nor is it yours to give them.

But plenty of people sure want to give it away.

I mentioned in an earlier post about how I created a “Coaching with your Spirit Guides” program several years ago. The intent was for me to channel messages from someone’s team and we’d discuss actions they could take to put it into play. Yeah. No. It didn’t work out that way at all in real life. What ended up happening is that people were waiting to see what their Guides said about everything, not making a move until they cleared it with them.

When I saw that pattern emerge, I stopped the program and started working with my clients on why they wanted so desperately to give away their power.

Your Guides cannot fully help you to the best of their abilities until you start calling the shots.

So, what’s it going to be?

Follow the old rules, trust someone else to tell you what to do?

Or, are you willing to create a partnership with your Guides and Teachers? Are you willing to accept the role of master of your own life and all that comes with it?

Which will it be?

Only you know the answer.