This past week, I went to Salt Lake City, Utah to attend Ignite, an event my coach, mentor and good friend Angella Johnson brought to life. (Yep, that’s us on the left.)
Ignite is like Woo + Biz on steroids! There was marketing, strategy, bellydancing, drum circles, shamanic meditations, POD POCing, and tons more. [Here’s a short video I did talking about it.]
For me, it was the culmination of some deep inner work that started last year when I was out there, working on that oh-so-fun visibility thing.
Between then and now, I went back to a full-time job when my husband got laid off, realized I could no longer be in a corporate cage and had to find the strength to say “I can’t do this any more” and came back to full-time in Practically Intuitive.
All the inner work I did in the time in-between paid off, though. At Ignite, I learned that I was really ready to be out there, speaking and teaching in a way I was terrified of just one year ago. I shared the stage with three of Angella’s private clients, talking about our work with her and how it’s shifted us AND our business. When I had to pass the mic to Paula Mosier, I had this thought “but I have more to say!” and that was the moment I knew – it’s time to do this.
What I want to share with you is this: sometimes big shifts happen in the blink of an eye and sometimes they take longer than we’d like.
Know that however long it takes is exactly the right time for you.
While I wanted to run amok on Angella’s stage (here’s me practicing some non-amok-running), I know that my time will come.
And yours will, too. If you are willing to face the fears that come up when you take on a challenge, whether in business or somewhere else, on the other side of that fear is what you desire. Isn’t that worth it?
Think back on all the times you were scared to death to do something and you went ahead and did it anyway. Even if it was a complete bust, chances are you learned something that will serve you well the next time.
If you’re in the middle of a shift now, keep going.
Do your inner work.
Trust the process.
Make sure you have help.
And maybe one day you’ll find yourself on a stage in front of a hundred people, helping them create transformations of their own.
That’s my dream.
I’ll start this post out by saying that I have a very difficult time receiving. I much prefer giving because, well, it’s easier and more fun for me. Picking out just the right card and gift is an art and it’s one I’m quite good at doing, thankyouverymuch.
Still, if you’re always giving and not often receiving (gifts, compliments, help, etc.) then the balance is way off. You aren’t being re-fueled in a way that supports you. Before you know it, you’re depleted and resentful.
This was me, several weeks ago. I was all grumbly and sad because it felt like I was giving a lot and no one was giving back.I asked a few trusted friends if I put off the energy of not needing anything and I got a pretty unequivocal YES.
It was kind of humbling to realize that I was the one shutting myself off from getting what I most wanted. I was so afraid that I’d come across as a whiny 5-year old, begging someone to pay attention to me, that I managed to go in the opposite direction and act like I needed nothing.Then I ran around feeling hurt because no one paid attention to me.
Ah! But there’s a silver lining!
Since I’m the one blocking the way, I’m also the one that can move. The shift is mine to make. I’m not sitting around waiting on someone else to change so I can be happy and get what I need. It’s all in my hands.
What about you?
Are you a perpetual giver but a craptastic receiver?
Why might that balance be off?
What payoff are you getting for never allowing anything in?
(There’s always a payoff! Mine was a desperate fear of looking needy so the payoff wasno one could judge me for looking needy if I refused to show what I need. As if I had any control over what others thought about me anyway!)
How can you allow the Universe to give you more?
What else is possible if you open up and say “yes, please”?
Once upon a time in a land far away (better known as 2010) I created something called“Email Coaching with your Guide Team”.
Here’s how it worked: each Sunday, I channeled a message from my client’s Guide Team for them to take action on during the week. They’d correspond with me and let me know what happened as a result of that action.
Sounded good to me in theory. In practice, not so much.
What happened was I started getting emails from my clients asking “what do the guides think I should do about this?” or “what do my guides say I need to do now?”
Hmmm. That wasn’t how I envisioned it.
What happened was that I created a space (unintentionally) that fostered a dependence on whatever edict was handed down from the Guide team. Shoot. Once I saw that, I ended that program quickly because that is so NOT the way to work with these high vibrational beings.
They do not wish to foster dependence on their words for they are not the ones taking action here in the physical. You are. You must always be the one to make those choices and when you wait with bated breath for their next utterance, you are giving away your self-authority.
If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know I’m big on self-authority. Here’s what I wrote about it back in 2011:
Self-authority (as I understand it) means having the ability to discern what is for your highest good and acting on it.
For example, society’s mores say that you won’t get a good job without a college degree. Your parents think it, your friends think it but what if you don’t? What if you feel like it’s not something you want to pursue and decide to go your own way? To stand up to those who believe otherwise is using your own self-authority.
Self authority means making decisions and accepting the consequences of those decisions without blaming it on another. It means knowing that everything that comes your way, good, bad or neutral, is a result of decisions you’ve made. It means stepping out of the victim shoes and into your own powerful ones.
Spirit Guides are amazing beings of light but they are not there to tell you what to do. Whether that’s in your business, in your love life, in your inner thoughts, it all comes back to you.
Don’t outsource your authority to them – they won’t take it (and will always turn the question back to you) and you are putting yourself in a position of powerlessness. And that position will not serve you in the long run.
Co-Create with your Guides – that’s what they’re there for. Be in charge of your life and ask your trusted advisors (both in spirit and in human form!) for their input and suggestions. But it all comes down to YOU.
You might have noticed that I’ve been sort of absent from my own business for a while now.
Where did I go, you ask?
Well, I put myself back inside a cage.
Have you ever wanted something with all your heart and been scared to death
to actually have it at the same time?
That’s what happened to me. After attending a life-changing workshop with my mentor in May, I had a zillion plans and ideas about where I wanted to take Practically Intuitive. I was locked and loaded (as they say) and ready to bust out!
And then the Universe decided to toss me a wee curve ball.
My husband got laid off from his job and went to that weird place we all go when something hits us unexpectedly. He was nervous and jangly, on edge all day even as he applied for jobs and networked his butt off.
Me? I was still brimming with confidence and complete trust in the Universe. I moved ahead with my plans of world domination.
‘Round about week 3 of his forced “vacation”, I began to take his energy on.
As an empath, I can do that a little too easily and though I fought it, I finally ended up in that scared, frustrated place he was inhabiting. Wanting to make him feel better, I said I’d check with my former place of employ to see if they had anything available (fingers crossed that they didn’t).
Of course they did! (Of course, right?)
And could I start, like, now? I cried when I told them yes because I knew it meant putting everything I’ve been working for on the back burner. But I wanted to show my husband that I was willing to step up when the time came to do that.
The position? The one from which I was laid off in 2012, working in an area called “the cage”. (So named because I handled big money and stock certificates and had to be in a secured area.)
So I went back to where I was two years ago, sitting in a literal cage-like area, apart from everyone else but the hub of all happenings in the office.
What happened to my confidence? My plans? Could I carry a full-time job AND continue building my business? I had no idea. (Short answer: no)
As I struggled to do both jobs, it became clear that I just couldn’t do it. Either I surrendered to the day job and let Practically Intuitive (and me) go back to playing small OR I could gin up all my inner resources and announce I had to leave.
I felt like I was letting everyone down if I did what I knew in my heart I had to do. For someone who is a hardcore people-pleaser to stand up and say “I’m putting myself first” is enormously scary. So much so that I took myself into overwhelm and then apathy just so I didn’t have to deal with it.
Being a highly-conscious person does not make these things easier, I’m here to tell ya. I knew exactly what was going on inside myself as I swung back and forth about all of it. This, my friends, is where the true value of a coach comes in. Both my personal coach and my business mentor helped me stand in what I really wanted and to know that the world wouldn’t end if I turned in my notice.
“You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
I did it. FINALLY! Even as my knees wobbled and my heart pounded, by saying “I have to go now”, I claimed my work (and myself) in the world.
And it took everything I had to do it.
What really happened?
In hindsight, it was clear that by setting the intention to be seen and take my business to the next level, I had ventured so far out of my comfort zone that I ended up putting myself back into the “safe” space I left two years ago. (I actually scared myself back into a cage. Yep. I sure did.)
Being willing and open to all the potential before you and up-leveling your business and your life is exhilarating AND scary as all hell! It pushes buttons you didn’t even know you had. Thing is, it happens to the best of us, in all kinds of ways. Your buttons will be different than mine but the challenge before you – to claim yourself and your work in this world – is the same.
I’m sharing all this so that you know I truly get the fears, the doubts and the big life changes that comes with the entrepreneurial journey. Having zero clue about said journey before I started Practically Intuitive. I can tell you that it’s not an easy one. (You know that.) But it IS rewarding in ways that feel almost indescribably good.
Yep, I’m back. Right here where I never wanted to leave.
Big things are coming in 2015!
Join me, won’t you?
Happy Friday to you!
The wind is whipping around outside, my dogs are playing in the leaves and it’s a lovely November day here in Maryland.
All I need is a #PSL and life would be darn near perfect!
The other night during a conversation with one of my Level One Professional Intuitive Certification students, we touched upon the topic of whether you had to ‘go all in’ and quit your day job to show the Universe that you’re serious about getting an intuitive or healing business going.
Some coaches and mentors will tell you YES! Do it! Jump off that cliff! Others will suggest a more conservative approach – segue into your business by building it part time while you have steady income.
What’s the right answer?
There isn’t one. Really. What works for me may (or may not) work for you.
There is a big difference between trusting the Universe to support you as you do your work AND leaping because ‘well, the net will appear, right?’ – a world of difference, in fact.
The good news: YOU CREATE THE NET!
The bad news: YOU CREATE THE NET!
Translation: it’s up to you how you do it. Or even *whether* you do it.
No matter what, the important thing is that you think it through. Make sure your decision makes sense for your life AND your business. I’ve known people who have planned it out meticulously and I’ve known people who just said “I’m outta here!” and somehow made it happen.
It’s entirely up to you.
You get to choose how and when to make the shift.
Sometimes you’re ready but can’t quite pull the plug out of fear so the Universe helps. (After getting laid off from my job in 2012, one of my co-workers said “Is this the Universe telling you it’s time to go?” to which I replied “Yep – loud and clear!”)
Other times, you’re ready and feel completely supported by the Universe to go do your work.
Remember: YOU get to decide when that is. So, go. Make a plan. Dream your dream. It’s one step closer to the life you truly want!
Bestie Anni and I were talking the other day and she mentioned this quote from renowned author Sonia Choquette about meeting with your Guides:
“Another way to show appreciation is to keep a clean and organized home. If that’s asking too much, at least maintain the area around your altar in this manner. This shows your respect for the guides by giving them a peaceful, clear place to rest.
This right here? Bullshit of the highest order. Seriously.
How do I know?
In addition to being the High Priestess of the Woo, I am also the High Priestess of Clutter. And if the Guides demanded (needed/wanted) respect to be shown in this manner, I am quite sure either I’d be nudged to remove that clutter or else risk losing my ah-mazing skills.
Since neither has happened, I think it’s pretty safe to say Guides do not give one tinker’s damn about a peaceful, clear place to rest.
With all due respect to Sonia Choquette, I am enormously bothered when teachers (famous ones at that) say things like this because it sets conditions on working with Guides in Spirit. And that is never, ever the case.
You don’t have to have a clean house, a pure heart, a big purse to ask your Guides for help. Their support is UNCONDITIONAL. Always.
And this is what I mean when I speak of discernment. Here’s a respected teacher in the world of Woo setting conditions on how your Guides will work best with you.
Nope. Nope and oh yeah, nope.
Don’t accept it. Don’t take it in. Don’t allow it to make you feel less than because you’re a creature of clutter.
I’m not some fancy author with a butt-load of books to my name (yet!) but I am one of the clearest channels for Spirit Guide wisdom you will ever come across. So believe me when I tell you that your Guides are available to you – 100% – at all times, in all ways, in all conditions.
You need them? They’re there. All you have to do is ask.