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One hour to change your life

Last Saturday, my pal Christine and I tried a new experience – we went to spend time in a flotation tank. You know what that is, right?

FloatIt’s where you get nekkid, step into warm, salty water in a dark enclosed space and basically lie there for an hour with no sound. Doesn’t that just sound like big fun?

(Claustrophobics, I hear you cringing way over here!)

Those of you who have worked with me know that I am highly skilled at moving right on out of my body and into the ether to dance with Guides and Teachers in Spirit. I thought this adventure of floating in salty water in the dark would be right up my alley. Float on, baybeee!

Yeah, no.

Nekkid me (yes, this is all done in a private space so I wasn’t scaring anyone with said nakedness) entered the chamber (shown above) and slid down into the water. Warm, nice, yes. But for some reason, my body wanted to try to control the experience and I was worried about sinking or drowning (in 2″ of water, but whatever). I tried to hold my head out of the water so my hair didn’t get too wet and I was just uncomfortable as all get out.

How am I going to last 60 minutes in this space? UGH. Can I just get out now?

Then I heard my Guides say “Trust your body to keep you safe”. No, I thought. I will do no such thing! Can’t I just float out and play on the astral plane? Please?

Nope. “Trust your body to keep you safe” they said again. (and again, and again, and again! Jeez, they are stubborn buttheads.)

So, to shut them up, I allowed the back of my head to go under the water, my hands up over my head and I laid there. My body got weirdly crampy and I wanted to get up but I heard them again saying “Trust your body to keep you safe”.

At that point, there wasn’t much else to do so I sank all the way into the warm water, fully submerged my head as much as possible (covering my ears) and surrendered to the notion that, indeed, my body WILL keep me safe.

Surrender is an interesting thing. It brings up all kinds of resistance and visions of foot-stomping and just STUFF. After a while, though, it faded and I melted into the water, feeling a lot more peaceful than when I started this adventure.

Before I knew it, the music came on to signal the end of the hour-long session and I stood up, felt for the door and opened it into the light. As I showered the ton of salt off, I felt something I have not felt very often.

I was grounded in my own body for almost the first time in my adult life. It’s a difference I have felt ever since that session. It wasn’t fleeting and it hasn’t disappeared.

It was a complete shift in how I BE in the world. And it took just one hour and my willingness to go to a scary place (literally and figuratively) to get to the other side. Who knew?

One hour really can change your whole life.

Confidence doesn’t come when you have all the answers

Confidence doesn’t come when you have all the answers. It comes when you are ready to face all the questions.

Hello and happy 2016!

I spent the past two weeks fighting off a weird bout of bronchitis and hoping it didn’t morph into pneumonia so my holidays rolled by in a haze of coughing, random sleep and Netflix. (Who else is watching “Making a Murderer”? OY!)

But before I came down with the sickness, I was feeling all sorts of lost and confused about what I was doing with Practically Intuitive. I even questioned if I should just chuck it all and go back to corporate world and sell my soul again. (And not coincidentally, guess whose old job opened up again? YEP. It did. Oh Universe, you make me giggle!)

It’s been said that being an entrepreneur brings all your junk up like nothing else. I would imagine that there are lots of things that stir the junk pot just as well. Parenthood, for example. Everything less-than-wonderful you feel about yourself can and will get dragged out in ways you can’t wrap your head around.

One of the things I know is that I didn’t study or train or anything to be the awesome Spirit Guide channel that I am. I just stepped into it when the door opened. (Yes, I took lots of classes but the basic ability was just there.) And so I have supreme confidence in my skills there. Don’t question them, don’t doubt them.

But when it came time to expand my capacities big time into the business side. even though I bring those stellar intuitive abilities with me, I got scared. What if I suck and no one is telling me? What if I’m not really helping people the way I know I can? What if, what if, what if?

And the more those voices came out, the stronger they got, like a discordant song playing over another on the radio. Soon, I couldn’t hear anything but the roar of everyone else doing it perfectly and I was not.

So, I turned off all the noise. I unsubscribed from damn near every list I was on and I stopped looking for validation OUT THERE. From clients and friends and anyone. I just stopped.

In the silence, I looked at what brings me joy, where I can truly be a contribution to someone else’s life and what was mine to do. I think being sick for almost 2 weeks helped me take that well-needed break from worrying about it and running after the answer instead of allowing it to show up.
Let me turn this toward you – are there places where you are feeling lost and confused? The answer to all of that resides within you. I can’t tell you, your bestie can’t and even Sherlock Holmes himself can’t.

mojoBe willing to look at a couple things:

1) What is the value of keeping myself in this place? We never, ever do anything without some sort of payoff (even the crap things have a payoff) so what is the value to you of this choice? For me, staying in that space of “I’m lost and don’t know what to do now” was about being scared to move forward. Being scared to be out on my own. The longer I could stay in “I-don’t-know-land”, the less fear I had to deal with, so that’s a win, right? Hah! No.

2) Are you willing to trash it all and start again? Doesn’t mean you have to or even that it’s the best thing. But if you are willing to be open to the possibility that you can trash whatever you want and start again if you choose, more and greater choices open up. Why? Because you are willing to do what’s required in that situation even if it means chucking it all.

If the answer is within you and the choices are within you, then YOU are the key to all of it. How cool is that? 

Yeah, it’s cool so don’t forget it. When you’ve lost your confidence or your mojo or whatever and you think the world doesn’t even notice you’re alive, remember that it all comes from within you. Start there and you’ll find it again.

I did.

Wishing you tons of laughter, joy and awarenesses in the coming year!

PS: I’ve got some goodies coming up in early 2016! (yey!) “Aligned and Unleashed” – because when HOW you share your gifts with the world ALIGNS with who you are, the magic (and money) you’ve been waiting for shows up!

(And you know I’ll hook you up with some special bonues and whatnot, right? Right!)

Well, that’s exhausting!

I’ve just returned from Luminosity in Utah, a 2-day training focused on how to put on a successful event and it was eye-opening in about a million ways.

I saw how easily and fluidly I slipped right back into Supporter mode. I was only too happy to be in the background taking care of others. After all, it’s been my work for over thirty years in my former job. Second in command is my sweet spot.

Yet, I had to remind myself that this is not where my true brilliance lives.

Can I do it? Yes.

Am I good at it? Yes.

Is it where I shine? NO. It’s where I hide. 

(Insert screeching sound here)

It’s not who I am at soul level but it’s who I can be without much effort. The effort? Oh, that comes when I stretch out of my snuggly zone o’comfort and show up as my real self. (Bleah. That feels scary just saying it.)

Thing is (and maybe this is true for you, too), I have spent most of my life in compartments. There is one person in the world who knows me down to the core and we’ve been friends for over thirty years. Everyone else gets a version of me. But not all of me.

And at the ripe old age of 55, I’m finally getting just how damn exhausting it is to have to remember who sees what side of me.  It’s exhausting pretending that I have all my stuff together all the time.

(Anyone there with me? Raise your hand!)

When you are the face of your business, there’s some sort of quiet pact that you don’t show all the stuff going on behind the scenes. Who wants to work with someone if they run around looking like a hot mess all the time?

Truth: We are all hot messes some of the time. We are all raging brilliant stars some of the time.

We are *all parts* of who we *are all the time*. 

If you’ve been compartmentalizing parts of who you are, is that still serving you? Is it supporting your intention of where you want to go (or who you choose to be)?

If not, here are a couple questions to think about, journal on or talk about with a friend for increased clarity:

1) What’s the value of hiding parts of myself from others? We never do anything without some sort of payoff so if you’ve been doing it, there’s a reason. Bring that reason (or reasons) into awareness so you can choose something different that serves you NOW.

2) What if the only thing that’s stopping you from creating the future you truly desire is every limitation about yourself that you bought as real? What’s possible if you were to release those limitations and look at what you truly desire?

Truth be told, I’ve been working on this whole compartmentalization thing for six years, peeling away layers and layers of stories I told myself or were given to me and I believed. It doesn’t happen overnight that POOF! the box is gone. It happens action by action, intention by intention.

By bringing awareness to it (as in noticing how easily I slipped into that supporter role and disappeared into the woodwork), I can make a different choice.

So can you. 

What happens when you just show up?

Greetings!

I’m starting off this post with a question for you: have you ever had a moment where you felt completely and fully in your element? Like, time stopped moving and all that was left was you and your groove? They don’t come often, that’s for sure, but when they do, it feels amazing.

I experienced such a moment at a retreat in Utah recently where I am lead coach in a year-long program for other soul-preneurs. We had a ‘get stuff done” night and I spent about 90 minutes helping someone create their opt-in pipeline (a series of emails that someone receives to welcome them to your list). Now that may not sound like big fun to you but it made my creative brain go all buzzy. brilliance

Writing emails is sort of my thing (had you noticed?) and in fact, I once wanted to write a book that was just emails back and forth between two people. (I’ve read two like that and yeah, there’s a fine art to doing it.) So, helping her write the emails for the opt-in is like breathing to me. Time passed but I hardly noticed it because I was so focused on just being in that space and creating.

easy wayAnd that’s what’s called “just showing up” in all your brilliance. Not in an arrogant way but in a way where it’s light and natural for you. I had no idea what we’d create together but I knew that I had the ability to do this with her. And it applies to almost any situation in life. How do you ‘just show up’ and trust that you know what you know?

One of the other women at the retreat is an AMAZING healer. She has powers that put Superman to shame (no lie). Her fear was that she wasn’t fully prepared for her sessions or that she needed still more training. Her Guides spoke through me and told her to “just show up”. That was it. She’ll know what to do. (I admit, it took some convincing before she accepted that was all she needed to do. Oh stubborn ego, why must you badger us so?)

Where do you need reminding to just show up? That it’s enough, that YOU are enough? How can you be in your brilliance today and own it?

What else is possible for you if you open up even more to your flow and joy?

 

It just stopped me in my tracks!

This week, I received an email from one of my dear readers that really stopped me in my tracks.

She shared that with all my talk of re-branding, her concern was that I’d leave behind all the unique things that made Practically Intuitive so dear to her heart.

Things like intuitive readings, helping connect people with their Guides and Teachers and being open to guiding people where they are, whether they are in business or not. Things I’ve done since the very beginning of Practically Intuitive in 2010.

Maybe from YOUR perspective, too?

In all my excitement about expanding, I didn’t really make it clear that Practically Intuitive isn’t going away. I’m just creating an addition to what I’ve done all along with an even clearer focus on guiding people to imagine, believe in and achieve their biggest vision.

And I’m doing it the way I always have – by getting on the phone with you and holding the space for what’s possible. So many amazing things can come from being in a space where someone sees your heart and soul and reflects that back to you.

If you’ve followed me for a while, you’ve watched my path open up and it’s because I was willing to get in there and look at myself, my life and what I know I’m here to do AND make changes as I go. I didn’t just wake up one morning and decide all my visibility issues or fears of not being good enough were gone.I talked, thrashed and cried my way through. I have someone who holds this space for me and it’s thanks to her that I am where I am in my life.

with you all the way
I can be that person for you – the one who meets you where you are, takes your hand and walks forward with you.

(I use this picture a lot because it carries the energy of my work with my clients.)

Whatever that vision is for you – whether it’s a more empowered life, a business that makes your soul sing, or a relationship that supports you fully, I’m here to help in a way that lifts you up and supports your growth.

It’s what I’ve done in many different ways over the past five years.

If you’d like to talk with me – about anything and get perspectives, guidance and support, you can do that now at a significant savings.

How does it get better than that? 

 

This is not a special and it has no expiration date. Buy it now, buy it later, it’s all good. While it’s on the site as a reading with your Spirit Guides still, you can use it for anything you want. (Truly!)

A 60 minute recorded session with me is $150.  Period. 

That’s it. I’m here, I’d love to help if you need that and I’m not going anywhere. I promise.

I send a huge hug and my sincere thanks to the person who wrote me that email. I heard you.

Here’s the link to the page to purchase your session: >> CLICK HERE << and I hope to connect with you soon.

Don’t contract! EXPAND!

Last week, I had the good fortune to interview the wonderful Glenyce Hughes – did you listen in?

Check it out here:

We talked about ways empaths and other highly-sensitive people can stay in their own energy and not get caught up in everyone else’s. Glenyce mentioned a tool that seemed to fly against conventional wisdom in the energy/Woo community.

Here it is: instead of closing your aura, bringing your energy inward, setting up protective boundaries and generally making yourself energetically smaller, why not open up and E X P A N D?

Well, there’s a new concept!

expansion
Really? I thought. Hmmm. Interesting.

Expand your energy out and out and out so that you get bigger instead of smaller.

I’m so used to shutting off, closing down, running away (mentally) from stuff that to open up and expand feels … scary? odd? foreign? to me.

What happens when you do that? I wondered if I’d be asking for everyone’s yuck to come flying at me which I really (really!!) don’t want. But I’m trying it (because, hey, why not?) to see what happens when I bring my big energy out.

Remember that any time you shift something big (and doing this IS a big deal, even if you don’t think it is), those around you might not take to it immediately (or at all!). I bet, though, it feels so empowering that you won’t want to go back to contraction and smallness.

Your challenge for the week is this: in situations where you are used to closing off your energy (disagreements with your partner, visiting hospitals or cemeteries, volatile environments), consciously choose to move your energy outward. Reach out to the very ends of your being (guess what? There IS no end!) and create space for your energy to flow.

Email me and let me know what that felt like to you. Was it cool? Scary? Weird? What happened when you tried it?

PS: “How much space do I need to occupy for this not to affect me?” – another good question Glenyce mentioned. If you’re not sure how big to project out, ask this and trust (TRUST!!) what you receive back as an answer.  (There were lots of useful questions like these on the call – it was just 30 minutes long – go listen!)