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(UBC) Day 20: Friday Pinterest Tee-hees

I love those someEcards things that pop up on Facebook now and then. Here are some of my favorites and if you know me at all, you will know exactly why they are my favorites! 🙂

Source: someecards.com via Lisa on Pinterest

Source: someecards.com via Lisa on Pinterest

(UBC) Day 17: TMI Tuesday: The many faces of Lisa

You all are lucky I like you, that’s all’s I’m sayin’. Here are some pics of yours truly from great moments in Lisa history (heh)

This was taken in 1999 when I was at my friend’s house holding her niece, Eve. I thought it was cute that I was showing both my maternal side (baby) and my wild side (reading Playboy because yeah, Playboy was so wild, yo.)
It was one of the pictures I had on the personal ad to which the now-husband responded. He said it “intrigued him”. He also said “I bet there’s never a dull day with you.” hahahhah I bet he regrets those words! heheh

AH! Wedding Day has arrived and I was all about looking like a princess. Yes, I even rocked a crown but you can’t see it here. (Don’t you wish you could, though?)

This is my beloved kitty, Midjull, who was in the process of shuffling off this mortal coil.

As you can see, I was pretty torn up about it. My friend Cathy remarked that Midge looks pretty placid and I’m the one all teary-eyed and upset. Loved that cat – he wasn’t too bright but he was my sweetie.

This is what you look like when you wait in August heat for over four hours just to see your beloved sekrit boyfriend. He looks great. I look like an old lady. Still, I got to touch meet him and that was awesome!

See? Four years later and I’m so happy to be feeling up meeting sekrit boyfriend again. We are both older (alas) and wiser. (Some of us are fatter, not naming any names.)

Here I am apparently attempting to look cute. This is about as good as it gets for me these days. And you know what? That’s okay! 🙂

(UBC) Day 12: This I know for sure

Here are just a few things that I know for sure:

1) There is life after physical death.  Others may not believe it and think once you’re dead, you’re just dust and that’s fine. But that’s not my experience and nothing you can show me (science wise) will convince me of that.

2) Consciously or unconsciously, we choose what comes into our life.  All of it.  The good news is since it’s in our control, if we don’t like what’s going on, we can change it.

3)  Lessons: get them the first or even the second time they show up.  After the third time, they suck hard. You won’t like them.

4)  If you’ve not had children and live a pretty chill life, don’t get a puppy when you’re 51.  This I REALLY know for sure.  🙂

5) You always, always get what you need.  That’s different than what you might want.  Sometimes, the Universe really does know best.

What’s one thing you know FOR SURE? I’d love to hear it! 




(UBC) TMI Tuesday – Part Duh

My, how time doth fly! Here we are again at TMI Tuesday where I bare all (well, mostly all) for your reading pleasure.

Today, I’m giving you five random facts about myself in no particular order. All I ask in return is one random fact about you in the comments. (Aren’t I nice?)


Fact #1: Once upon a time (15 years ago) I had four cats and a dog who slept in the bed with me. Live-in boyfriend told me that he couldn’t deal with the cats and I had to make a choice who slept in the bed. I got him a nice double bed for the other room and me and the cats (and Max) continued our sleeping arrangement. (I’m an only child – have always slept by myself (or with pets) and even now, hubs sleeps in the other room because he snores, goes to bed earlier than me and … well, cats.)

Fact #2: At the previous place of employ, I dubbed myself the “Minister of Fun” early on. Anytime I had to send an email to everyone in the office, I’d change up whatever “Minister of …” I was, often making fun of the subject matter at hand.

(If we had a lunch meeting, I’d sign it “Minister of ‘Get in here before all the food is gone” or something equally goofy.)

My last email to everyone saying goodbye was signed “The Minister of New Adventures”. Wonder what I’ll sign my first email when I go back? “Minister of Can’t Quit You“? hehe)

Fact #3: I have a weird compulsion to straighten things on shelves in stores. Mind you, I don’t work there. But as I’m browsing, I’ll straighten. This perplexes the hubs because I happily co-exist with clutter. I’m also very neat when I go to hotels, hanging things up and putting them all away. Don’t want the housekeeper to think I’m messy, right? (But do not come to my house on a surprise visit! I must have at least a day or two notice of your arrival so I can tame the clutter.)

Fact #4: Upon hearing that I was able to tune in and hear my cats speak to me, my mother said this: “Honey, are you sure you’re not going crazy?” – and she meant it!! This! From a woman who “just knew things but didn’t know how she knew them” but always trusted it! I’m pretty sure that ten years later, I’m (still) not crazy. And darned if I can’t hear Brogan’s thoughts, too. (But he’s easy. It’s true. You can probably hear them right now!)

Fact #5: I like to start things in the middle. If there’s a foundational piece to the training, I don’t like that. I want to jump in and go and really have to force myself to remember that I must have the basics down before I can jump ahead. It feels like I’m wearing a harness and I can’t run free. (Weird, I know.)

So, tell me ONE thing about yourself that’s a wee bit TMI. You’ll feel better once it’s out in the open, I promise!

(UBC) Day 8: You won’t like this definition of Soul Mate

The esteemed Dr. Wayne Dyer said this about soul mates:

I don’t think your twin flame or soulmate is the person who always agrees with you or shares all the same interests with you.

I think it’s the person who can push your buttons in life. Whoever that person is who can say one thing that pushes your button and you go into a frenzy, that’s your soulmate.

They’re teaching you in that moment that you have not mastered your-self. I think your soul-mate is somebody who reminds you constantly that you still have work to do on yourself. You don’t really need somebody in there agreeing with and accepting every single thing that you say.

And (don’t let this shock you) but I totally agree with his definition. It’s not the romantic “You complete me.” crappola we are fed constantly. Your soul mate is someone who has agreed – on a soul level before you incarnated – to help you with the lessons you chose to get in this lifetime. Often in a not-terribly-fun-for-you way.

I’ve spoken about one of my cousins before and it’s so clear to me that (again, on a soul level, mind you) she’s a soul mate. Even as kids we never got along. As adults, less so.

Set up by the expectations of our traditional Italian family that ‘you must get married early’, she and I had an unspoken competition not to be the last granddaughter to be married. (She won because I was the very last of the four granddaughters to get hitched.) We also had a “who’s thinner?” unspoken competition. (We have shared that title at various times. When I had my gastric bypass in 1997, she told me that she would (and I quote) “never, ever mangle her body in that fashion”.) Right now? She is winning, having just lost an amazing amount of weight.)

She has gotten under my skin in ways that I cannot even explain and I am sure I have done the same for her.

And when I came out about my woo-ness, well, that was the last straw for her evangelical self. Clearly, I’m doing the work of the devil and she challenged me so quite openly. That set off every single button she hadn’t already pushed and I finally opened up a (smallish) can of whoop-ass on her.

We share similar wounds and she reacts one way to them and I another. Each time she pings me, I look at what’s going on inside me. Because it ain’t about her at all. It’s about me. It’s about what she has agreed to do for me in this lifetime and that’s show me where I need to grow and evolve.

Right now, it’s about my physical body. As I mentioned, she has lost a good bit of weight this past year by working hard at it and she looks great. I really am happy for her because she’s doing things now (parasailing, for example) that she couldn’t do when heavier.

And yet.

And yet.

I look at what I’m doing (nothing) and what results I’m getting (fatter) and am angry at her. I know, right? Why be angry at her? Why not be angry at myself? (I am.)

Again, she’s stirring me to action because I see her taking charge of her life (and it’s been a really hard life she’s chosen this go-round) and here I sit, eating a bagel. It’s made me look at my issue more up-close-and-personal than I have been.

See? Soul-mate.

Stirring me to action.

When she questioned my spiritual beliefs about four years ago (at a family party, no less!), it really hit me hard because who I am is deeply, deeply rooted in those spiritual beliefs*. I’ve only ever had to defend that once before and that was through email. This was face-to-face.

*(While I don’t think everyone needs to follow the same path, I do believe we are all entitled to follow the path that brings us the most peace. And who am I to say what that is for another?)

And my inner “How dare you!” rose up and spoke. I claimed myself in a way I never have before.

See? Soul-mate.

I am thankful that she agreed to be my teacher and soul mate in this life because these are lessons that are important for my soul’s growth. She probably wouldn’t see it the same way but to me, it’s crystal clear.

There are others in my life who function in this role: my husband, various friends, even my mom. We don’t have just one soul mate – there are all kinds of people who’ve agreed to do this work with you. And you, them.

So, based on that definition, who is (or who are) your soul mate(s)? What lessons have you gotten from them that really helped you move forward? And whose soul mate are you?