I’ll start this post out by saying that I have a very difficult time receiving. I much prefer giving because, well, it’s easier and more fun for me. Picking out just the right card and gift is an art and it’s one I’m quite good at doing, thankyouverymuch.
Still, if you’re always giving and not often receiving (gifts, compliments, help, etc.) then the balance is way off. You aren’t being re-fueled in a way that supports you. Before you know it, you’re depleted and resentful.
This was me, several weeks ago. I was all grumbly and sad because it felt like I was giving a lot and no one was giving back.I asked a few trusted friends if I put off the energy of not needing anything and I got a pretty unequivocal YES.
It was kind of humbling to realize that I was the one shutting myself off from getting what I most wanted. I was so afraid that I’d come across as a whiny 5-year old, begging someone to pay attention to me, that I managed to go in the opposite direction and act like I needed nothing.Then I ran around feeling hurt because no one paid attention to me.
Ah! But there’s a silver lining!
Since I’m the one blocking the way, I’m also the one that can move. The shift is mine to make. I’m not sitting around waiting on someone else to change so I can be happy and get what I need. It’s all in my hands.
What about you?
Are you a perpetual giver but a craptastic receiver?
Why might that balance be off?
What payoff are you getting for never allowing anything in?
(There’s always a payoff! Mine was a desperate fear of looking needy so the payoff wasno one could judge me for looking needy if I refused to show what I need. As if I had any control over what others thought about me anyway!)
How can you allow the Universe to give you more?
What else is possible if you open up and say “yes, please”?
If you don’t quit your day job and go all in, Spirit will know you’re not serious about doing your soul’s work and you’ll lose your skills.
Have you heard that one before? Maybe not couched in such a woo way but the message is the same: if you don’t do something now, you’ll lose the opportunity forever.
The horror! I shall now proceed to my fainting couch. (Actual picture of me just this morning!)
What crap! Seriously. Just fear-mongering crap.
Your soul level gifts and skills are yours. Forever. You can use them if you want. You can toss them out the window as you zoom around Ventura Highway.
You can do whatever you want. They won’t be snatched away because you didn’t quit your day job to be intuitive reader extraordinaire immediately.
I built my business while working a full-time often demanding job. The Universe didn’t declare that I had to quit the moment I went pro or else they’d forever block my ability to hear Guides and Teachers.
Don’t let anyone tell you that. Not a coach who’s waiting on you to commit to working with her. Not your friends who want you to do it first in case you fail, not your inner voice that likes to beat you up.
Your soul’s work always comes around in another way if you choose not to take the exit ramp that’s in front of you. It has to. It’s the reason your soul came here. How could you miss it?
(Granted, if you keep zooming by an important exit, your team is going to “help” you get there some other, often less fun, way. Still, it’s always your choice and you’ll always get there, one way or another.)
Ditch the fear and just get started. If you have to work a day job to create a business that is profitable and sustainable, DO THAT! And do it knowing that you’ll know when the time is right to take a bigger step.
Trust yourself. And if you can’t move past the fear, ask for help.
Ask from an empowered place where you know all you have to do is take one step for the other possibilities to open up. (Wasn’t this the subject of last week’s newsletter? Apparently, we’re not quite finished with that lesson, eh?)
I know. It all sounds like TInkerbell will wave her wand and sprinkle fairy dust on you, right? But this is plain, down-to-earth, grounded advice (that coincidentally lines right up with the fairy dust!).
Creating a business from your skills IS a big damn deal. And not to be taken lightly.
If you decide to do that, do it when you’re ready and not out of any fear that you’ll lose your abilities.
They’re yours for life.
And know that the Universe supports you in whatever you choose to do with them.
One of the most important parts of creating a business is having a connection with those who want to hear from you.
I’ve been writing a newsletter since I started Practically Intuitive in 2010 and I credit much of my success to keeping in touch with my newsletter subscribers on a pretty consistent basis.
I’ve heard it said that when someone opts-in to your list, they’re saying “Yes, I’d like to hear more from you”. So, let them hear more from you!
If you’re an intuitive, healer, soul-preneur, share your knowledge with those who have given you the gift of their email address.
Stuck on what to write about for your newsletters? Well, this article from Zapier has lots of good ideas such as sharing new content, strengthening loyalty with early access and keeping your community engaged.
Don’t just email people when you want to sell them something – that’s a sure way to get unsubscribes!
And don’t be the person who emails something once a year because if my first words are “Who is this and when did I subscribe?” you’re not doing it right!
Just be yourself!
Find a way to talk to your subscribers and let them know how you can help them by sharing your area of expertise. That may be through a personal letter you write (much like I do each week), or by sharing a story from your own life to illustrate a concept you are talking about.
Have fun with the process and let others get to know you. The more they know you, the more you create a space of trust and that’s so important, especially as a soul-preneur, working with others at that deeper level.
If you’ve neglected your list for a long time, take this as a nudge to re-connect and let them know you’re around – do it in a way that’s uniquely you. Practice shining through your words and see what happens.
(That’s your mission, should you choose to accept it!)
Once upon a time in a land far away (better known as 2010) I created something called“Email Coaching with your Guide Team”.
Here’s how it worked: each Sunday, I channeled a message from my client’s Guide Team for them to take action on during the week. They’d correspond with me and let me know what happened as a result of that action.
Sounded good to me in theory. In practice, not so much.
What happened was I started getting emails from my clients asking “what do the guides think I should do about this?” or “what do my guides say I need to do now?”
Hmmm. That wasn’t how I envisioned it.
What happened was that I created a space (unintentionally) that fostered a dependence on whatever edict was handed down from the Guide team. Shoot. Once I saw that, I ended that program quickly because that is so NOT the way to work with these high vibrational beings.
They do not wish to foster dependence on their words for they are not the ones taking action here in the physical. You are. You must always be the one to make those choices and when you wait with bated breath for their next utterance, you are giving away your self-authority.
If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know I’m big on self-authority. Here’s what I wrote about it back in 2011:
Self-authority (as I understand it) means having the ability to discern what is for your highest good and acting on it.
For example, society’s mores say that you won’t get a good job without a college degree. Your parents think it, your friends think it but what if you don’t? What if you feel like it’s not something you want to pursue and decide to go your own way? To stand up to those who believe otherwise is using your own self-authority.
Self authority means making decisions and accepting the consequences of those decisions without blaming it on another. It means knowing that everything that comes your way, good, bad or neutral, is a result of decisions you’ve made. It means stepping out of the victim shoes and into your own powerful ones.
Spirit Guides are amazing beings of light but they are not there to tell you what to do. Whether that’s in your business, in your love life, in your inner thoughts, it all comes back to you.
Don’t outsource your authority to them – they won’t take it (and will always turn the question back to you) and you are putting yourself in a position of powerlessness. And that position will not serve you in the long run.
Co-Create with your Guides – that’s what they’re there for. Be in charge of your life and ask your trusted advisors (both in spirit and in human form!) for their input and suggestions. But it all comes down to YOU.
Have you seen those dresses in the store labeled “One size fits all” and you just laugh and laugh because that one size? It ain’t fitting your all! (Just me? Okay then.)
(Wait! Not just me! Check out this article called “This is what One Size Fits All looks like on all” and thanks to Lindsay for sending it to me!)
I find the world of coaching (business, life, etc.) is like that, too. What’s perfect for one person may be all wrong for another. In my Business of Intuition Facebook group we were discussing the merits of Marie Forleo’s B-School program.
One of the group members mentioned that she was a B-School alumni and found herself overwhelmed by all the information but not a lot of specific guidance on how to put it into practice.
What she’s found “to be the most helpful in my business is having a strong connection to your intuition. And having a personal business mentor that’s connected to their intuition and guidance.”
YES and yes and oh gosh, YES!
My first real business coach flat out told me she really didn’t trust her intuition much. Red flags aloft! My business went south quickly because she was guiding me to ignore my own intuition (which was screaming loudly at this point). I trusted her over my own intuition and got a good and very costly lesson.
I didn’t make that mistake the next time I hired a coach and have worked well with her because she listens to her inner guidance AND knows the strategic pieces to put into place. Finding her felt like Goldilocks sitting in the exact right chair and being able to exhale.
My point to you is this: whether it’s in business, a relationship, or something else entirely, find what fits FOR YOU.
It doesn’t matter that all the cool kids do it or if every single person you know does it this one specific way. You MUST find *your way* and someone to support you in the way you need that support.
If you’re an info hog and just want to do it all yourself, an informational based program is likely a fit for you. If you love info but get tripped up on the implementation, then a hands-on coach will work better than a large group program.
It’s all in what works for you and you won’t know that until you try something on for size. I’ve taken enough DIY courses to fill a small library and the best money I’ve spent is working with someone directly to help me get stuff done in my own business.
What about you? Do you find one size fits your all?
And speaking of that, have you checked out my new “Work With Me” page? I’ve created a program that lets you get what you need when you need it because there really IS no “one size fits all” in the coaching world! Let me help you get moving in the right direction with lots of support, strategy and fun!
Last December as part of the Magick, Miracles and Mojo Telesummit, I had the opportunity to speak with the lovely Flora Luck.
I met Flora in a Facebook group and love the work she’s doing in the world. You can find her at The Good Luck Lady.
She’s sweet and sparkly – magical, really!
We had a nice chat about what I do here at Practically Intuitive and what life as a professional intuitive is like.
Love to hear your comments on the interview – what was the piece that most resonated with you?
Happy New Year!
As you might have known (or not, as the case may be), my focus has shifted over the last year to working with intuitives, energy healers and spiritual teachers who want to create a solid business foundation. I had no idea that’s where I was headed but that’s where I found myself and happily so.
In a series of posts here on Practically Intuitive, I’ll be sharing where I see budding entrepreneurs get stuck and how to navigate around those pieces.
Part the First: Release the (need for the) bling!
Let me define bling so you know where I’m coming from.
“Bling” is the endless series of courses, nifty web add-ons, the ‘must-have’ apps and
all the other gee-gadgets out there to make your life easier and your business (more) profitable.
Are they helpful? Yes. In the right context.
Are they necessary? Kinda sorta but not right away.
Guess what they all are? DISTRACTIONS!
Why? Because we may be scared that we’ll miss the one thing that will move our business into the black.
We’re trying to keep up with everyone else out there and feeling like we fail miserably. More courses, more programs, more stuff must be the answer, surely!
It’s just not.
And buying things is a way to make ourselves feel better when we go to that “I suck at this” place. (Can you relate?)
Here’s the thing: building a business is new to many of us. We have no idea what we’re doing but we’re doing it anyway. That summons up all your ‘not good enough’ fears.
My own background was in corporate work and no one in my family was an entrepreneur so I really didn’t know what I was walking into. Add that to a very curious nature and you had me spending tons and tons of bucks on every damn thing that came down the pike.
Many of them sit unused on my hard drive, mocking me. (Okay, I just imagine they do. I’m pretty sure they don’t. Right?)
Some were above my head in technical know-how, some were entirely too much information and threw me into overwhelm and some were just me, acting on the spur of the moment because I had money in my PayPal account.
Don’t do this. Seriously.
Here are some things to do instead:
Suggestion #1: Turn off ALL the emails that tempt you. You won’t miss anything, I promise. If there’s one or two people who give you tips or suggestions in their emails that resonate with you, stick with them and ditch everything else. Remember you can always go back to them.
Suggestion #2: I love content filled courses as much as anyone. However (and this is a BIG ONE) unless you are implementing what you learn from those courses, you’re throwing money out the window. Go back to what you already have and look for one or two things to implement today. Maybe a tweak to your newsletter process or how to do Pinterest for business. You already have something, somewhere that will give you a place to start. Look there first. (I know. So un-sexy, innit?)
Suggestion #3: Even though it seems as if right now (January 2) everyone is picking a word for their year, setting intentions to take the world by storm and have the best year EVAH, know that it’s okay to start right where you are. You are not them, they are not you. Intention setting is super and I recommend it but you can do that any day of the week. It doesn’t have to be January 1st or your whole year is blown.
Start where you are and go from there.
Look for more tips in this series coming next week. I’ll be blogging much more now and hopefully, you’ll find lots of good ideas to help you get started.
Big news: I’ve opened my calendar up to talk with you about your business and what’s going on (or not!)
Go here [link to my calendar just for you] and pick a 30 minute appointment. There’s no hard sell, no obligation. Just me and you.
When we talk, I’ll bring in the business advisor from your Spirit Guide team (they are so cool). You’ll leave with an action step and more clarity about where your business is going. Sound good? Click the link above and get on my calendar and let’s get going!
I can’t wait to talk with you!
You might have noticed that I’ve been sort of absent from my own business for a while now.
Where did I go, you ask?
Well, I put myself back inside a cage.
Have you ever wanted something with all your heart and been scared to death
to actually have it at the same time?
That’s what happened to me. After attending a life-changing workshop with my mentor in May, I had a zillion plans and ideas about where I wanted to take Practically Intuitive. I was locked and loaded (as they say) and ready to bust out!
And then the Universe decided to toss me a wee curve ball.
My husband got laid off from his job and went to that weird place we all go when something hits us unexpectedly. He was nervous and jangly, on edge all day even as he applied for jobs and networked his butt off.
Me? I was still brimming with confidence and complete trust in the Universe. I moved ahead with my plans of world domination.
‘Round about week 3 of his forced “vacation”, I began to take his energy on.
As an empath, I can do that a little too easily and though I fought it, I finally ended up in that scared, frustrated place he was inhabiting. Wanting to make him feel better, I said I’d check with my former place of employ to see if they had anything available (fingers crossed that they didn’t).
Of course they did! (Of course, right?)
And could I start, like, now? I cried when I told them yes because I knew it meant putting everything I’ve been working for on the back burner. But I wanted to show my husband that I was willing to step up when the time came to do that.
The position? The one from which I was laid off in 2012, working in an area called “the cage”. (So named because I handled big money and stock certificates and had to be in a secured area.)
So I went back to where I was two years ago, sitting in a literal cage-like area, apart from everyone else but the hub of all happenings in the office.
What happened to my confidence? My plans? Could I carry a full-time job AND continue building my business? I had no idea. (Short answer: no)
As I struggled to do both jobs, it became clear that I just couldn’t do it. Either I surrendered to the day job and let Practically Intuitive (and me) go back to playing small OR I could gin up all my inner resources and announce I had to leave.
I felt like I was letting everyone down if I did what I knew in my heart I had to do. For someone who is a hardcore people-pleaser to stand up and say “I’m putting myself first” is enormously scary. So much so that I took myself into overwhelm and then apathy just so I didn’t have to deal with it.
Being a highly-conscious person does not make these things easier, I’m here to tell ya. I knew exactly what was going on inside myself as I swung back and forth about all of it. This, my friends, is where the true value of a coach comes in. Both my personal coach and my business mentor helped me stand in what I really wanted and to know that the world wouldn’t end if I turned in my notice.
“You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
I did it. FINALLY! Even as my knees wobbled and my heart pounded, by saying “I have to go now”, I claimed my work (and myself) in the world.
And it took everything I had to do it.
What really happened?
In hindsight, it was clear that by setting the intention to be seen and take my business to the next level, I had ventured so far out of my comfort zone that I ended up putting myself back into the “safe” space I left two years ago. (I actually scared myself back into a cage. Yep. I sure did.)
Being willing and open to all the potential before you and up-leveling your business and your life is exhilarating AND scary as all hell! It pushes buttons you didn’t even know you had. Thing is, it happens to the best of us, in all kinds of ways. Your buttons will be different than mine but the challenge before you – to claim yourself and your work in this world – is the same.
I’m sharing all this so that you know I truly get the fears, the doubts and the big life changes that comes with the entrepreneurial journey. Having zero clue about said journey before I started Practically Intuitive. I can tell you that it’s not an easy one. (You know that.) But it IS rewarding in ways that feel almost indescribably good.
Yep, I’m back. Right here where I never wanted to leave.
Big things are coming in 2015!
Join me, won’t you?
I hope you had a lovely Thanksgiving holiday and are gearing up for theWhoosh! of the Christmas season to fly by.
One of my big joys is finding the exact perfect gift for someone. I pay attention year ’round to things my loved ones mention on Facebook or in conversation in an off-handed way. They don’t even realize I’m listening to what their heart wants but I am.
My reward? Watching them open the gift and saying “How did you know I wanted that?” That fills my heart up with an almost indescribable sense of joy. (Parents probably know this well, right?)
I bet that’s the feeling the Universe gets when you truly open into your gifts and share them with the world. You know those gifts – the ones that are so easy for you to do but somehow you find hard to share with the world and (gasp!) get paid for it.
Thing is, you might be sharing your gift in the form of trades, barters, discounts or even for free. But let me ask you this: is that REALLY serving people?
Or maybe you find yourself bogged down and overwhelmed with the stuff you have to do for a business: website, emails, marketing, and (horrors!) sales conversations!
There is an easier way for people in the world to open your gift.
And guess what? When they open your gift, they open the gifts of truth and power within themselves and that is where the magic happens!
This is how we change the world – through our gifts.
If you know it’s time (and you don’t necessarily FEEL ready), leave a comment below and let me know what you want to create in 2015. (Yep, that thing that scares you.)
I want to know.
If I can tell you anything right now, it would be this: you may not feel ready, but the world is ready for you.
So the question is, will you let the world open your gift or will you keep it to yourself?
Leave a comment and tell me you want something more in 2015 than what you’ve got going on now.
(Even if it scares you to say it out loud – just do it!)
I’d love to hear from you.
Happy Friday to you!
The wind is whipping around outside, my dogs are playing in the leaves and it’s a lovely November day here in Maryland.
All I need is a #PSL and life would be darn near perfect!
The other night during a conversation with one of my Level One Professional Intuitive Certification students, we touched upon the topic of whether you had to ‘go all in’ and quit your day job to show the Universe that you’re serious about getting an intuitive or healing business going.
Some coaches and mentors will tell you YES! Do it! Jump off that cliff! Others will suggest a more conservative approach – segue into your business by building it part time while you have steady income.
What’s the right answer?
There isn’t one. Really. What works for me may (or may not) work for you.
There is a big difference between trusting the Universe to support you as you do your work AND leaping because ‘well, the net will appear, right?’ – a world of difference, in fact.
The good news: YOU CREATE THE NET!
The bad news: YOU CREATE THE NET!
Translation: it’s up to you how you do it. Or even *whether* you do it.
No matter what, the important thing is that you think it through. Make sure your decision makes sense for your life AND your business. I’ve known people who have planned it out meticulously and I’ve known people who just said “I’m outta here!” and somehow made it happen.
It’s entirely up to you.
You get to choose how and when to make the shift.
Sometimes you’re ready but can’t quite pull the plug out of fear so the Universe helps. (After getting laid off from my job in 2012, one of my co-workers said “Is this the Universe telling you it’s time to go?” to which I replied “Yep – loud and clear!”)
Other times, you’re ready and feel completely supported by the Universe to go do your work.
Remember: YOU get to decide when that is. So, go. Make a plan. Dream your dream. It’s one step closer to the life you truly want!