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Found this gem on Tumblr and wanted to share it with some added thoughts of my own.

25 things you should know about other people

1. Most people hide their suffering better than you think, you pass dozens of people a day on the street without any idea how well they’re wearing their tragedies. (As an empath, I’m naturally attuned to this vibration and if I have my skills turned “on”, I can tell what’s going on with someone with a quick look.  We’d all be a lot kinder to each other if we understood this, don’t you think?)

2. People’s names are the sweetest sounds they hear. You should make a point of being good at learning and using them. (You may call me Queen if that makes you happy. I answer to that and Lisa. heh)

3. People love to spread their misery around, but not as much as they enjoy being lifted out of it. (I help do some lifting every day and am thankful that others help me just as much.  Who can you lift out of misery today?)

4. Being young is not in and of itself an achievement. Neither is being beautiful. But people often treat you as if they are. (Don’t feel bad. We all do it.  Pretty people are nice to look at, aren’t they?)

5. For a lot of people, music is a reflection of who they are and their relationship to life. Remember that before insulting someone’s favorite band. (Oh my goodness – how true is this?  To me, music is sacred.  I rarely tell my husband what crap taste he has in music because I’m just that nice. ha ha)

6. The Golden Age never existed. People are always trying to get back to a time when things were simpler and better. The world was a far more dangerous place fifty years ago, especially if you were black or a woman or gay or diagnosed with cancer. (It’s just fear of what they don’t know is all.  Fear is at the core of it.  No matter what, things must move forward so might as well get used to it.)

7. Most people, whatever their choice of profession, feel like complete novices that are about to be found out as frauds and fakers. (I wonder if Donald Trump feels that way? Everyone else does about him.)

8. Most people love quite helplessly, despite what they would have you believe. (I’m not sure what this means.  Does it mean we don’t have a choice about the people we love? I might disagree there. Any ideas?)

9. Show me the most beautiful woman in the world, and I’ll show you a man who’s bored with taking her to bed. Show me the most devoted husband, and I’ll show you a woman who feels that he’s just not doing enough. A lot of people are never satisfied because…   (keep reading below)

10. Most people have no idea what they want out of life, let alone how to get it. Most others are still waiting for someone to give them permission. (Ah! The Permission Genie strikes again! I think will write a whole post about waiting on the Permission Genie. Psst, here’s a secret: YOU are your own Permission Genie. It’s true.)

11. Whatever it is about yourself that you’re trying to hide, it’s usually the first thing someone else notices about you. (For me, it’s my teeth. No hiding that, alas.)

12. You should call your mother and tell her you love her. Like most women who decide to marry and have children or help take care of a dying parent, she probably sacrificed a lot of her dreams to be there for you, and she wishes that you appreciated her more for it. Susan Boyle represented this demographic powerfully, but for every one of her, was a woman like your mother who will never get that standing ovation. (I have a hotline to the “other side” so I’ll ring my mom right up and tell her.  Actually, I did that many times while she was still here in the physical.  There’s so many emotions bound up in the mother/child dynamic that it’s hard to see this clearly. Try anyway.)

13. If you tell a man about your problems, he assumes you want some sort of help or advice. If you tell a woman about your problems, she assumes you simply want a shoulder to cry on. Women rarely want to be told what to do about a problem, and men rarely want to be coddled through a hard time. (How damn true is this? Would that it were not so.)

14. Creative people thrive on feedback. You can never give them enough of it, and you will endear yourselves to them mightily if you do it frequently, thoughtfully, and honestly. They understand far better than most think, the value of time.  (WORD.  Thoughtful comments mean the world.)

15. For most people religion is a social commitment more than a spiritual one.  (Do you think this is true? I don’t, actually.)

16. A lot of people who consider themselves intelligent can’t properly label all the states on a map, or all the countries in Europe, let alone Africa or the Middle East. Most couldn’t list off the ten commandments, five pillars, or the amendments of the Constitution, and feel that politics are too complicated to bother with understanding, let alone talking about. (Do you think this is true? I can’t label all the countries in Europe on a map or name Constitutional amendments. But I can do all the rest. What does that say about me? I don’t think it tells you anything about me. Or anyone else.  Exception: If you are a member of Congress, please to know the constitutional stuff. It’s part of your job. Looking at you, Michele Bachmann!)

17. A lot of Christians have never, and will never, read the Bible. Most of them will conduct their lives exactly as they would if they’d never attended a single church service. It is nearly impossible to tell a Christian from an atheist by their actions alone. Both Christians and atheists will probably find the previous statement offensive. (Do you? I know some who truly live their beliefs and some who try and some who never ever try.  It’s kind of a personal matter, I think.)

18. For nearly every crazy idea, you can find a fully credentialed scientist who will back it up. (HA! I KNOW this one is true!)

19. People are more frequently kind and compassionate than they are fooled by our manipulations or lies. (Yep, ’tis true in my experience.)

20. Life often works in reverse. People treat strangers more politely than their family or friends. People will ask a friend’s band to play their party for free, will call their best girlfriend to come over and cut their hair without a thought to payment, but would never dream of calling a mechanic they found in the phonebook and asking them to donate their time and labor to fix a broken down car. (Oh, I dunno.  I know some peeps who would happily do that last part and think nothing of it.  But yeah, we do tend to be nicer to strangers because we don’t live with them.  It’s that living thing that wears your politeness button down to a nub, innit?)

21. Everyone has done something they would be desperately embarrassed for anyone else to know about. (Why are you looking at me? I swear there are no skeletons in my closet.  Shoes I’ve never worn and clothes that don’t fit but skeletons? Surely you jest. And don’t call me Shirley)

22. Never joke with a man about his sexual performance, and never joke with a woman about her appearance. No matter how much they make fun of these things in themselves, never, never do it for them. They may laugh along with you, but you’ve just driven a tiny needle into their brain. (This makes me sad but I think it’s true. It’s the things we say sort of off-the-cuff that can hurt someone else the most.)

23. Most women get married because they want to have a wedding, most men get married because they are ready to settle down with a woman for the rest of their lives. Women, statistically speaking are more likely to suffer clinical depression if married, and initiate upwards of 80% of all divorces citing irreconcilable differences. People expect a significant other to change their lives and make them happy without any conception of how this change will take place. Sort of like assuming a college degree is going to guarantee you security in life without ever thinking of how this can be practically possible. I call this the “If you build it, they will come” approach to romance and one out of every two times it ends in divorce. (I didn’t get married to have a wedding because if I did, it would have been hella more elaborate than the one I did have! What do you guys think about this concept – does it ring true for you?)

24. Most people are worried they’re not having as much fun as they should be. This usually makes men cheat and women nag.  (Hmm, really? If I’m not having fun, that’s my own issue and ain’t no amount of nagging (however fun it might be) will resolve that issue.)

25. When you insult or offend someone, always admit it and apologize promptly, even if it wasn’t your intention or you had no idea. It is always better to be a penitent villain than to appear so socially inept as to not recognize when you’ve hurt the people around you. An evil genius is someone to bring to your side, a blundering fool is someone to keep as far away from you as possible. Man up, kids, and apologize if you were wrong.  For reals.)

What’s something that is true FOR YOU? Please share it in the comments below.